1 Making a Difference

Attention Travelers: Stop and Look Around You

2012-02-27T22:33:00.000-06:00

As an avid traveler I have found that if I stop and look around there are always opportunities to give and help others. From my observation, airports tend to be a confusing place that makes people nervous. All people want is for someone to help them but they don’t want to ask for the help.

I take the Coach USA bus from Northwest Indiana to Chicago Midway airport. During this trip I have to transfer from one bus that continues to O’Hare and get on my bus that goes to Midway. While I was transferring buses today I noticed a young lady that had a baby strapped to the front of her, a large purse, baby bag, duffle bag and two rolling suitcases. People with their heads down grabbed their bags and continued to move on to their bus. I stopped and asked her if she needed help and she said yes. I strolled and loaded her bags on the bus.

When we got to the airport I asked her again if she could use some help. I brought her bags into the airport and I could tell she hadn’t traveled much so I decided to stay with her until she felt comfortable and got to where she was going. I helped her at check-in and gave her directions on how to get to security and get to her gate. In giving her directions I could tell she was still not confident she could make it to her gate.

I told her to wait at the top of the escalators while I took my bag to check-in. As I was walking away she asked a very direct question, with a nervous giggle… “Are you a human trafficker?”

At first I was taken aback by her question but then I stopped to look at the situation. A total stranger, following and helping another total stranger through the airport. I know she had to be thinking, “Why is she doing this? What is in it for her?”

She said, I only ask because I was watching this show last night on human trafficking and it has me paranoid. I can’t believe this stuff happens in the United States. I laughed and said I am not a human trafficker. You can trust me. I told her I was a former police officer and that I was married to and Indiana State Trooper. Yes, there are some corrupt cops out there but 98% are out there doing good things, so I hope this would ease her suspicions and it did.

I dropped off my bag and came back to her and navigated her down the escalator to security where I helped her with her bags. It is funny how the mind works because here she was hoping I wasn’t a human trafficker and as I was carrying her bags and helping her through security, I was praying there were no drugs or illegal items in her bags. That is all I would need. Trying to prove to the cops I was just taking time to help someone through the airport and that a bag I had in my possession was not my bag. I am sure the cops would believe that story because that is what everyone who is smuggling drugs say…. “It’s not my bag!”

We made it through security and I looked at my watch and still had an hour to get to my gate. I decided I would continue to help her with her bags and walk her down to her gate, B18. We made it to the gate and because she was flying standby I took her to the Southwest desk to see if she was going to make the flight. Unfortunately her flight was overbooked and she would be bumped to another flight.

The customer service representative asked the young lady, “Who is this?” The young lady without missing a beat said, “This is my guardian angel and I love her!”

We had been together less than an hour and we had made a connection, a bond. I walked her to her seat, got her situated and gave her a big hug and wished her luck on her travels.

Next time you are in the airport, stop and look around for someone needing help. Help someone with their bags, let someone in front of you who seems to be running late or give someone directions that seem lost. These random acts of kindness cost you nothing but may be priceless to the person you are reaching out and lending a helping hand.

One of my favorite quotes...

2012-02-26T21:53:00.000-06:00

It is words of others that have gotten me through tough times in life. It is the words of others that has inspired me to work hard, to never quit and to make this world a better place. I am blessed to have been raised by people who were and still our constant encouragers through their words, cards and now texts!

Words are very powerful. They can save a life but they can also be the thing that prevents people from succeeding and being who they were meant to be. Words can build people up and tear them down.

I have one whole wall in my office that is dedicated to positive words, quotes, poems, stories and life lists. One of my favorites came from a friend and I felt compelled to share it with you all this evening.

"Promise yourself to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. Look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true. Think only of the best, work only for the best, and expect only the best. Forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future. Give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others. Live in the faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is in you!" ~Christian D. Larson

I challenge you to be encouraging in your words. Be kind to others and build people up by motivating them to be the best they can be.

"You always make a difference. Its' your choice as to whether the difference will be positive or negative, active or passive, helping or hindering." ~Harold R. McAlindon

Don’t Text…Just Drive.

2012-02-25T12:14:00.000-06:00

Every day we make a million little decisions that shape the course of our day, week, month, year and life. In an instant one decision can change everything and affect thousands of people.

On December 30^th, Emily Huntington, a beautiful 18 year old girl made one decision that ended her life in an instant. Emily, a senior at Jac-Cen-Del High School in Southeastern Indiana was captain and leading scorer of her basketball team, on the honor roll, volunteered in her community and was recently accepted to Indiana University.

On that beautiful day in December, Emily was driving, picked up her phone to read and respond to a text message. She lost control of her car, it flipped and because she wasn’t wearing her seatbelt was ejected from her vehicle and died instantly.

Emily made a mistake. She didn’t have her seatbelt on that day, which friends say she ALWAYS wore and she was texting. I must admit, I always wear my seatbelt. When I was younger, my father a retired police officer, would always say, “I never pulled a dead body from a seatbelt.” But I am GUILTY of texting while driving. I am guilty of seeing the little red light blink in the corner of my blackberry and I check emails.

Since Emily’s death every time I am tempted to text and drive I think of her. I think of how that could have been me. How that could have been you. We all do it.

Here are some statistics on Texting and Driving:

· About 6,000 deaths and a half a million injuries are caused by distracted drivers every year.

·         While teenagers are texting, they spend about 10 percent of the time outside the driving lane they’re supposed to be in.
·         Talking on a cell phone while driving can make a young driver’s reaction time as slow as that of a 70-year-old.
·         Answering a text takes away your attention for about five seconds. That is enough time to travel the length of a football field.

For Emily’s death to be for nothing we must make changes in our lives. We must learn from her mistake. We must start advocating and spreading the word that Texting While Driving KILLS people. Emily’s friends and family don’t want others to experience the tragedy and loss that they are experiencing. The students and faculty where Emily went to school made a PSA. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bRZfpgwwDkQ

Please share this PSA with friends and family members young and old. If you are a teacher share it with your students. If you are employed share it with your coworkers. If you are in management or a decision maker at your workplace, tell your employees that no company text, phone call or e-mail is worth risking their lives or the lives of those on the road around them. It CAN wait.

My gift on this day back on January 21^st was a financial donation to the Live, Laugh, Learn Scholarship fund created in Emily’s name. To date, over $31,000 has been raised for this scholarship fund.

Today I challenge you to stop Texting and Driving. Don’t text….JUST DRIVE!

Start your giving adventure today!

2012-02-02T07:44:00.000-06:00

I can’t believe it has been several weeks since I have posted a blog. Time flies by when you are having fun and living life! My gifts over the past couple of weeks have been rather simple and I have had a little bit of writers block trying to blog about the daily gifts. To check out my daily gift list click here.

A couple of month’s back I was contacted by a lady who stumbled upon my blog and has started to follow my gift giving journey. She had many questions about how I got started, how I figure out what gifts to give, etc. She e-mailed me first and then I followed up with a phone call to her. I love hearing from those of you that follow my blog and getting to talk to new people and making personal connections is even better.
I let her know that I had read the book 29 Gifts and that it motivated me to start not just giving only 29 days, but for an entire year. That year made such an impact in my life that I have continued into year two. I explained to her that in the beginning, gifts were sometimes hard to come by and many days I relied on creativity and seeking and searching for opportunities. But, as the days, weeks and months went by opportunities started to present themselves and the gift giving became a daily habit. What do the experts say; it takes 21 days of consistent actions to build a habit?

I checked in with this young lady at the end of her first month and she gave me permission to share her response and experience. Here it is:
“Hi Stephanie- I am so excited to tell you about my 29 days that unintentionally has turned into 31 and going.

Well, it hasn’t been easy, but it has been interesting and very surprising. I found that on every single occasion that I gave something, I got something in return. This was not my intention what-so-ever but I have received an award for every act.
The most interesting incidence of giving happened one day when I was frustrated very upset and couldn’t focus on something to give. So I took an idea from you and while I was running errands, I drove through a drive-thru and purchased a coffee drink and of course, paid for the car behind me. On my way home, I noticed the same car behind me. I didn’t think anything of it but then I actually started to wonder if I had offended the driver somehow.

Well, she followed me home. I got out of my car ready to apologize when an old friend popped out of her car and thanked me for the coffee and wanted to know why I hadn’t just waved her down so we could have coffee together. I had no idea I knew the person. It has been a few years, I didn’t recognize the car and I deliberately didn’t look in my review mirror because for some reason, this particular act was made me nervous.
Another beautiful thing I am finding is that every time I talk about this with family and friends, I get more “leads” if you will for giving and others are considering a journey of their own.

On day 29 an acquaintance asked me to provide them some consultative services for a fee. I volunteered my effort – that leads to a nice contract for the spring. Completely unexpected but very cool! I have continued with day 30 and 31 and will keep going. I do think it is a habit now, another reward for me.

So when I started, I did not expect rewards. It is strange. I love giving and in the past, over thought things so much that when I gave, the recipient often felt like they had to give something back to me which was very uncomfortable for both of us. This journey, while I think about it every single day, has made things so much easier in that the gifts are simple, unpretentious and don’t render that feeling of obligation on anyone’s part

So glad I caught your blog on this! It doesn’t matter if my gifts are even acknowledged by the recipients or if I even know who directly benefits- I think the practice of just giving changes so many things we can’t be aware of unless we make the effort.”

I hope this young lady’s story inspires you to start your gift giving journey today. I encourage you to start on this amazing adventure. Even if your goal is to just give a gift for a day, a week or month. It is a start. I can almost guarantee that if you make it to 21 days, it will not only become a habit but a lifestyle that will change your life and those around you.

If you have questions or need ideas drop me an e-mail at 1makingadifference@gmail.com or leave a comment.

Day 13-The Gift of Life

2012-01-13T20:53:00.000-06:00

Today my gift was a planned gift. It has been on my calendar for weeks. It was a gift, to be honest; I wasn’t looking forward to giving. It is not that I didn’t want to give the gift, but more that I was anxious, nervous and a bit scared.

January is National Blood Donor Month and I had signed up to donate blood. Our local high school, Kouts High School, was having a blood drive and this was my opportunity to give the gift of life and hopefully motivate others to do the same thing.

I have only given blood once back in 2008 when I was in the police academy. We had a blood drive competition between the squads and since I am a competitive person I wasn’t going to chicken out in front of all the guys, even though several others did. I had a positive experience and not for sure why I was so worked up today.

Prior to leaving I was anxious and trying to find every excuse in the book not to go. We had received a couple of inches of snow last night and so I was convinced I couldn’t get out of my driveway or the roads were going to be too bad to drive. But I knew none of this was true.

I arrived safely at the school, snow on the road in all. I quickly learned that the majority of the people donating where high school students. This was such an encouraging thing to witness. All the chairs were filled with students giving blood. I must admit, I was flattered when the man checking me in thought I was a student. After I was checked- in I had to review several documents and then received a coupon from Culvers for a free pint of frozen custard. Bonus!

I anxiously waited for my number to be called. My number was called and I met with a nurse who pricked my finger to test my hemoglobin. All looked good so I got to move onto the questionnaire on the computer. It was a bunch of, “Have you ever….” questions. I completed the questionnaire and the nurse looked at the results and ask if I had traveled out of the country in the last year. I stated, “Yes, to Mexico.” She requested a list of all the placed I had traveled while in Mexico. I told her, “Cancun, Riviera Maya and Tululm.” She says, “Tulum! You can’t donate blood if you have been to Tulum due to your risk for malaria.” Who knew!

So my gift of life failed. I was disappointed that I couldn’t give blood but maybe secretly relieved. I will be able to try again in February. Since I was unable to give blood I made a financial contribution to the American Red Cross.

Did you know…

·         The American Red Cross needs to collect 22,000 units of blood each weekday and
·         Around 15,000 units each weekend to meet patient needs
·         Every two seconds, someone needs blood.

To find a blood drive near you go to www.redcrossblood.org I encourage you to donate blood and give the gift of life.

Day 9-Super Bowl XLVI-An opportunity to give

2012-01-11T07:19:00.000-06:00

Since starting on this gift giving journey I have been surprised by many things, but two in particular. #1-How many opportunities there are to give once I opened my heart. I have post-its on my desks of reminder of gifts and a file folder of gift giving ideas. Gift ideas are everywhere! #2- I’m realizing there are so many people and organizations doing some pretty cool things to make a difference.

With this said, I wish the news was filled more with #2 instead of all the doom and gloom we see today. No wonder so many people are negative and depressed. We are surrounded by negative and depressing information everywhere we turn. I challenge you to seek stories that are uplifting and put you in a good mood. I also encourage you to share those stories with others. Let’s start a revolution of positive and inspiring information filling our inboxes and facebook walls!

I am fortunate to work for Cisco Systems, Inc., a company that makes giving back and volunteering a priority. Through Cisco, a sponsor of this event, I was presented an opportunity to donate to a service project related to Super Bowl XLVI called Super Basketsfor Hope.

According to their website, Super Baskets for Hope is the first service project in NFL history to extend its reach nationwide. Super Baskets for Hope will deliver gift-filled baskets to 7,000 hospitalized children in each of America’s 32 NFL cities. The outreach project is a collaborative effort of Riley Children’sFoundation, the Basket of Hope program, and former Indianapolis Colts coach, Tony Dungy.

My gift on day #9 was a financial donation to Super Baskets for Hope. To donate or learn about what is in the baskets, check out Super Baskets of Hope website at http://www.superbasketsofhope.org/.

Day 7 & 8- BCS Championship Game… I don’t really care!

2012-01-09T20:51:00.000-06:00

I was sitting in the "man cave" watching the BCS Championship game because I felt like it was the thing to do. But as I was sitting there I felt like I was wasting time. I don’t really care if Alabama or LSU wins. My team, the University of Michigan won the Sugar Bowl that makes me happy! So I decided to quit watching the football game to come blog!

Do you have life goals, a life list or a bucket list? One of the things on my life list is to travel to all 50 states. I have 17 more to go and hope to knock off at least Wyoming and Oregon this year.

My husband was out of town this weekend so one of my friends came over and we planned a trip to Wyoming. Talk about God’s country. I was looking at all the pictures of the Grand Tetons and Yellowstone National Parks and can’t wait to go hiking and maybe even hang-gliding! My gift for Saturday was a treat for my friend (and to be honest myself also). I bought beautifully decorated cupcakes from Designer Desserts. I wish I would have taken pictures. I bought my friend the chocolate cupcake that had teal icing, sprinkles and a cherry on top and me a coconut cream pie cupcake that really tasted like coconut cream pie. They were delicious!

On Sunday I decided to go to church. I had been out of the habit for almost a year. I have no real good excuse for not going. I try to use my husband as my excuse since he works most Saturday nights and sleeps in on Sundays. But let’s be real, I’m a big girl and could go by myself. I just choose not too!

This past year I was blessed to meet a friend whose husband also works nights so on Sunday we attended church together. My gift on Sunday was a financial gift to Valparaiso Nazarene. I really enjoyed the service. The worship band’s energy was contagious and the pastor preached from the Bible, was relevant and humorous. I think I will be going back again!

I really try to support local small businesses when I can and I encourage you to do the same. I hope everyone has a blessed week. Try to give a gift if you can, even if it is just smiling, asking someone how they are doing or holding the door open for the person behind you. All little gifts make an impact!

Day 6-Bubble Smoothie?

2012-01-07T20:04:00.000-06:00

I think I must be out of the loop, but before last night I had never heard of “bubbles.” I learned that bubbles are tiny tapioca pearls that can be added to tea and smoothies. They are dark in color, chewy and have a sweet taste.

Last night I met Wendy Taddeucci, owner of Simply Organized, LLC at Uptown Café for drinks. I would say coffee but neither of us ordered coffee! It was my treat and gift for the day. Wendy ordered a bubble smoothie, which I had never heard of but it looked yummy. I think I am going to have to try one the next time I am at Uptown Café.

Wendy and I are both professional organizers and have been organizing in NW Indiana for over five years but have never met. We had a fun evening discussing what it is like to work with people and change their life by helping them get organized. We had similar stories and both learned that we have laughed, cried and become friends with many of our clients.

Are there professionals in your community who you would like to meet, collaborate with and get to know better? If so, reach out to them and ask them to join you for coffee or a bubbled smoothie! I have so enjoyed getting to know many fascinating people over the years. I encourage you to look outside the four walls of your office/home and get to know someone new today!

Check out Wendy on TLC’s Hoarding: Buried Alive on January 29^th.

Day 5-A coffee shop, a painting and the Bible

2012-01-05T22:18:00.000-06:00

Several months ago I was in a local coffee shop, Uptown Café, and as I was leaving I noticed these beautiful paintings on the wall. I was drawn, no pun intended, to one painting in particular. The colors of the painting matched nothing in my home so I asked the cashier for the artists’ contact information and he gave it to me. I wanted to contact the artist to see if she could paint me something similar but just different colors.

I e-mailed the artist, Michelle Pendergrass, and several weeks later she was in my home looking at the colors in my office so she could create a painting for me. We immediately connected and I knew that God had brought her into my life for a reason. She has great energy, is very positive, motivated and has a great story on how she started painting and now her business. I love meeting people who are explorers in life and their careers. It is rare that people follow their passions and do what they truly love on a daily basis.

This is the second time in a year when I have encountered a stranger, picked up their business card, sent a random e-mail about their product and developed a friendship. I think life is full of opportunities to do great things and meet amazing people. We just have to stop long enough to listen to that little voice that is telling us to make a call or send an e-mail. It is the same voice that tells us to help a stranger, flash a smile or give a gift. Though this journey I have really tried to be focused on listening, helping others and giving of myself. On most days we will never know the impact of one small action.

Today my gift is a Bible to Michelle. In her paintings she somehow weaves clippings of Bible verses into the art and she mentioned when she was visiting that she could always use more Bibles.

Want to see the amazing artwork I saw in Uptown Café? Or if you are local attend a Visual Prayer class on the 4^th Friday of each month at Uptown Café. Check out Michelle’s website at http://visualprayer.com/.

Day 4-Clean out your closet for Soles4Souls

2012-01-04T22:13:00.000-06:00

One of the top 10 New Year’s resolutions is to get and stayed organized. If I had to bet, I am guessing many of you had this on your list of resolutions or things to accomplish in 2012. Have you taken any steps to meet this New Year’s resolution? If not or if you haven’t started on your closet maybe Soles4Souls will motivate you to get organizing and making a difference at the same time.

I am not for sure how I came across the organization Soles4Souls but when I did I was intrigued and put it on my list of organizations to research and donate to in the future. Soles4Souls is an organization, according to their website that, “collects new shoes to give relief to the victims of abject suffering and collects used shoes to support micro-business efforts to eradicate poverty.”

I took five minutes tonight to go through my closet and pick out five pairs of shoes to donate. I find, especially when it comes to shoes or clothes, I hold onto them even if they are outdated or I don’t wear them. For most things in my home I can discard of if I don’t use it or love it. I have a problem doing this with clothes and shoes. Today I was actually ashamed of myself that I had a difficult time picking out five pairs of shoes. I originally could only pick out two and then had a thought, “Really Stephanie, really? You probably have 40+ pair of shoes and you can’t find five to donate?” After this self talk I quickly picked out three more pairs. Guilt and reality of how blessed I am will get me every time.

I encourage you to take 5-10 minutes to go through the closets in your home and donate 5 or more pair of shoes to Soles4Souls. To learn more about Soles4Souls and how you can donate new or used shoes go to http://www.soles4souls.org/.

Day 3-Letters to families of fallen officers

2012-01-03T21:27:00.000-06:00

Last year I started writing letters to families who had a loved one that was killed in the line of duty. Due to other gifts I was able to give throughout the year I got behind on these letters. I kept a list of letters I need to send and eventually I will send letters to every family that lost a loved one in the line of duty starting in 2011 until I decided it is something I should no longer continue. No sure that will ever happen!

Today I wrote letters to the families of Border Patrol Agents Eduardo Rojas and Hector Clark. They were killed in the line of duty on May 12, 2011 when their vehicle was struck by a train. Both Agents left behind a wife and two children. To learn more about these officers click on their names.

Through a tragedy that took place in my home town on December 30th, a young, vibrant 18 year old girl lost her life way too early and was laid to rest today. I was reminded how quickly those we love can be taken away from us. Never miss an opportunity to tell someone you love them. RIP Emily.

Day 2-Recycled Christmas Cards

2012-01-02T17:25:00.000-06:00

Do you still have your Christmas cards laying around the house? Want to help a great organization fund raise with your used cards? If so, mail them to St. Jude's Ranch for Children. They recycle the cards and sell them to raise funds for their organization. They also except all other types of greeeting cards.

This was my gift for today and it only took me about 10 minutes to go through my cards, place in an envelope and prepare to ship.

Here are their card donating tips:

All types of greeting cards, including Christmas are used.
Only the card front can be used (please check to be sure the back side is clear of any writing, etc.)
We can not accept Hallmark, Disney or American Greeting cards.
5″ x 7″ size or smaller is preferred.
Mail donations to :
St. Jude’s Ranch for Children
Recycled Card Program
100 St. Jude’s Street
Boulder City, NV 89005

For additional information: http://www.stjudesranch.org/shop/recycled-card-program/

365 Days of Giving

2012-01-01T22:09:00.001-06:00

Happy New Year! Well 2011, a great year, has come to an end and I am looking forward to the possibilities for 2012. A year ago today I made a goal to give a gift everyday for year and I am happy to report that I accomplished that goal yesterday!

In the beginning I don’t think I really knew what I was getting myself into or where my gift giving journey would take me. It has been fun, challenging, heart-warming and life changing. I have met many great people, learned about wonderful organizations and causes and have made many new friends.

This journey that started as a challenge has turned into a new way of life for me; something I can’t live without. Over the past couple of months people have been asking me if I am going to continue with my daily gift giving and without hesitation my answer has been, “YES!”

I know this will sound strange, but I think I would be sad not to give a gift every day. It is something I look forward to and enjoy the smiles it brings to people faces. It is something truly being done with no expectation of receiving anything in return. I also strongly feel this journey I have been on and will continue in 2012 is part of God’s plan for me. What I am suppose to be doing. And until I feel otherwise, I will continue to make the commitment to give.

Are you wondering what my final gift of the year was? It was a New Years Eve Party at my home for a group of close friends. There was one catch if they wanted to attend, they couldn’t bring any food. Usually when we have parties we all pitch in and everyone brings food but not this party. I think I outdid myself and had tons left over. With the help of my husband, I spent half the day in the kitchen preparing all types of yummy appetizers. We are not partiers so the night included watching a football game, Family Feud, Dance Central, Rock Band and the Newlywed game. We all made it to midnight and some of us even made it until about 1:30. We had fun laughing, joking with each other and more importantly enjoying each other’s company. I love to entertain so this was a fun gift to give.

I am not big into New Year’s resolutions, but I do set many goals for myself for the year. If you do the same and I hope one of your goals for the year is to increase your giving!

Thank you for letting me be a part of your life for this past year. I hope you continue to follow me on my gift giving journey. Have a blessed 2012!

Day 364-Gifts Galore!

2011-12-31T11:44:00.000-06:00

Yesterday may have been one of my busiest days giving days of the year. I had several gifts that I had meant to give earlier but for one reason or another I just didn’t. Also, I have been off work for over a week and I have been cleaning out every drawer, cabinet, closet and room of my home and some gifts from decluttering.

Several of my gifts came because of a tradition that was started when I was little and continues to this day. When I was growing up mom, my sister and I would spend a day baking cookies and candies and then deliver the treats to friends and family. Sometime around Christmas, even though we all can’t be together to bake, I still spend a day or two in the kitchen making tons of goodies for neighbors and friends. This year on Day 363 I took cookies to a neighbor and then yesterday on Day 364 I took cookies to several friends, the post office and a nonprofit I support. Gift #1.

The non-profit that I took cookies too is Housing Opportunities. They provide housing for the homeless, help families prevent foreclosure; provide home ownership education and affordable rental housing in Northwest Indiana. On Day 187 I donated toilet paper and on Day 238 I volunteered in their food pantry for the United Way ofPorter County’s Day of Caring. Yesterday besides cookies, I dropped off new hats and mittens and toilet paper and paper towels. They always seem to be running low and in need of the last two items. Gift #2.

I love the public library but my books to tend to always be overdue. I finally finished, Through My Eyes by Tim Tebow and needed to return it. It was only about 10 days overdue! I enjoyed the book though there was too much play by play of his college football games and the book got a little boring for me. I am intrigued of how the media has treated Tim Tebow over the past year. We have a guy who has, from what I can tell, done nothing but good things in his college and NFL career yet the media makes him out to be some terrible person just because he boldly talks about his Christian faith. Call me crazy, but I am not for sure what’s wrong with a guy who does a lot of charity work, goes on mission’s trips to help with an orphanage in the Philippines and is a role model for the upcoming generation, regardless of his faith these are all positive things that children of today don’t see much of. You would think positive is positive and let us encourage him to continue to do good deeds. Okay enough of my soapbox! I got a little sidetracked; while I was at the library I donated used books and magazines. Gift #3.

Finally I dropped off a car load of unwanted items at Goodwill. As a professional organizer, now is a good time to make a commitment to simplify the material things in your life. Go through your home and keep only those things you love and you use on a regular basis. The other things are physical and mental clutter which causes stress. This donation was Gift #4.

I want to wish everyone a safe and blessed New Year’s Eve. Have a fun New Year Eve but please don’t drink and drive!

Day 362-My favorite Christmas card

2011-12-29T08:01:00.000-06:00

Christmas cards are one of my favorite things about the holiday season. With Facebook, e-cards and e-mail I am fortunate that many of my friends still take time to send Christmas cards. I enjoy the letters and family photos, especially from those I don’t see or talk too much throughout the year.

Out of all the Christmas cards I receive, there is one I always wait for and is my favorite. It is the Christmas letter from Coach Bullock and Mrs. Coach. Coach Bullock was my cross country coach at Taylor University. He is a spry older man who had an impact on me that few in my life have. Yes, there are many people that come and go in our lives and many make an impact. But there are those special few that make such a significant impact in your life that no matter where you are, how old you are or what you do, they will always be there in your thoughts, be reflected in how you make decisions and in your heart. Coach Bullock is one of those people. He was there with me day 1 when I stepped on campus at Taylor University, he was there when I suffered heartbreaking injuries and he was there with me on my wedding day.

He wasn’t only an amazing coach but he was a great friend who expected a lot of us as runners and as Christian women. I think what I liked most about Coach was that he never made a decision for us as a runners. He always gave us choices, the choice to work hard or be lazy or the choice to run extra miles or quit for the day. He made you want to work hard without ever raising his voice or being negative. He was an encourager. I worked hard because the last thing I wanted to do was disappoint Coach.

My gift yesterday was a hand-written note to Coach Bullock and Mrs. Coach. I didn’t send Christmas letters (only cards with photos) this year, but felt it necessary to write and send one to him. He is getting up there in years and his health has deteriorated but through his Christmas letter, I know he is still the same old coach. By sending him this letter I wanted him to know what I had been up to but also to let him know that I still think about him and that he is loved and remembered.

Over the years, who has impacted your life? Take a couple of minutes today to drop them a note to tell them thank you for the difference they made in your life. It will brighten your day and theirs!

Day 355- It was a sad day today.

2011-12-22T00:42:00.000-06:00

Today is one of the saddest days of the year for me. I have probably cried six or seven times today. Call me an emotional girl or someone who just has a heart and compassion for those that have lost a loved one in such a tragic way. Call it a wife of a lawenforcement officer who worries every time her husband leaves the house. And today reminds me more than other days of that reality.

I just returned from a law enforcement memorial that is held at 10:00 p.m. at the graveside of Trooper Scott Patrick. 10:00p.m. December 21, 2003 was the last time Trooper Patrick went 10-41. He would be shot and killed in the early morning on December 22^nd. Tonight friends and family gather to remember him and to say, “You may be gone, but not forgotten.” This year was extremely difficult because they had a bagpiper (gets me every time), the trumpeter and they did a special roll call for Scott on the air.

Scott was a friend of mine from the police academy and was good friends with my husband. He was one of the best men I had ever met. He always had a smile on his face, was quiet and never a bad word to say about anyone. He was an incredible athlete and could run like the wind.

When he was killed in the line of duty his wife was two months pregnant. He would never get a chance to meet is son, Isaac “Scott” Patrick. After Scott was killed my husband and I made a commitment that #1 we would be there for his family over the years and #2 his son would know what a heroic and wonderful law enforcement officer and man his father was.

His son would be born early in the month of June and at the time I bought tons of baby necessities and clothes. And then I look it one step further. Every birthday and Christmas starting in 2004, I have sent a gift to Scott. He is now seven and he knows who we are and that makes my heart smile.

Today was my annual Christmas gift to Scott. He loves Legos and I bought tons of Legos.

When I was in college in college one of my friends mom passed away unexpectedly. I remember talking to his father months later and he said “people surround you when the tragedy happens and they are at the funeral and then they go on with their lives and you are there to live with the pain and hurt day in and day out. People forgot, and I am still suffering.”

Those words have always stuck with me and I have tried really hard to stay in touch with Scott’s family so they know, I remember, I still hurt and he won’t be forgotten.

As I have stated many times before, say thank you to a police officer for the job they do. 99% of officers are the “good guys” sacrificing their life on a daily basis for our safety.

Day 96-We received a gift!

2011-12-11T13:40:00.000-06:00

Today I am going back to Day 96. This day renewed my faith in people, strangers in the world that also believe in random acts of kindness.

My husband and I were in his squad car going through the drive thru at the Dairy Queen, our favorite summer treat place! When we pulled up to the window to pay for our delicious ice cream treats the cashier said, “the lady in front of you paid for you!” This was a shock to both of us. My guess is it had something to do to the fact we were in his police car and believe it or not there are still people out there who love, respect and know the sacrifices law enforcement officers make on a daily basis.

We told the girl at the window we would like to pay for the person behind us. This was my/our gift for the day! She was a little puzzled but accepted our money.

As we drove away I wondered two things, one what did the person behind us say when they found out we had paid for their meal and two did they pay it forward or did the gift giving end there?

Next time you are in line at McDonalds, Starbucks or the Dairy Queen offer to pay for someone’s meal. Random Acts of Kindness go along way and may times have a ripple effect. Start a wave of giving today!

I'm Still Giving Gifts!

2011-12-03T07:32:00.001-06:00

Over the past couple of months people have been asking me if I am still giving gifts on a daily basis and the answer is YES! I have kept up with my goal of giving at least one gift a day for every day this year. I just haven't been blogging about it.

The blogging for me got a little overwhelming. As summer came, increased responsibilities at work and more traveling, the blog was somthing I had trouble fitting into my day.

It is my goal to go back and write about my favorite gifts over this past year and then start the new year with daily posts, some will be long and some will just be a sentence. I believe in what I am doing and it has changed my life for the better.

Yesterday was day 336 and through Samaritan's Purse I was able to give an orphan a month of loving care. In more than 20 countires, Samaritan's Purse is caring for orphaned, abandoned, and destitute children by partnering with local ministries that meet their physical needs while sharing the hope of the Gospel. A gift of $35 provided a child with a month of meals, lodging, healthcare and education.

I hope you have been giving through out the year and that it has made a difference in your life and the lives of others.

Thanks for taking the time to come visit my blog and look for more posts in the future. In the meantime, take a minute and go back and read some of the gifts from the first part of the year.

Have a blessed day!

Days 94, 107, 108, 159, 162, 166, 170, 180, 198, 199, 200 and 205- No end in sight for these letters.

2011-08-05T16:15:00.000-05:00

As of today, August 5^th 109 police officers have been killed in the line of duty in 2011. This is up 5% over last year at the same time. If you have been following my blog you know that I have made a commitment to write every family who has lost a son, daughter, brother, sister, husband/wife in the line of duty. Over these ten days I wrote 32 letters to the families of :

· Office Schaberger

· Officer Breitkopt

· Deputy Justus

· Deputy Stiltner

· Officer Brown

· Officer Gibson

· Officer Dunn

· Deputy Diana

· Deputy Britton

· Trooper Dobson

· Game Warden Gorden

· Officer Birkholz

· Senior Officer Christian

· Deputy Stein

· Trooper Fotiou

· Sgt. Chapin

· Officer Schmidt

· Officer Johnson

· Officer Cooper

· Trooper Werda

· Deputy Sherri Jones

· Officer Zapata

· Deputy Taylor

· Officer Kilcullen

· Sgt. Vann

· Officer Garton

· Officer Phillips

· Trooper Hunter

· Officer Tirado

· Captain Braden

· Officer Hall

· Sgt. Dulle

I began this committment at the beginning of the year and I am starting to see that even one hand written note from a stranger can make a big difference. I have been deeply touched by the responses I have received from law enforcement agencies and families of those killed in the line of duty. Many days we give gifts and we never know the impact of the gift we gave. And then other days we see and know that just one person can make a difference.

1 Making a Difference: Day 93-Susan G. Komen-Race for the Cure

2011-07-25T22:38:00.000-05:00

1 Making a Difference: Day 93-Susan G. Komen-Race for the Cure: "This time last year I was training for one of the most physically challenging events I have participated in my lifetime. My mom and I not ..."

Day 93-Susan G. Komen-Race for the Cure

2011-07-25T22:37:00.000-05:00

This time last year I was training for one of the most physically challenging events I have participated in my lifetime. My mom and I not only trained but completed the Susan G. Komen 3-Day. We walked 60 miles in three days to show our support for breast cancer survivors, those that lost the battle and family and friends who have been affected by this disease.

If people actually thought about what they were signing up for they would never do it. Just think about, walk 60 miles in three days. That is equivalent to 2.3 marathons in three days. My mom and I signed up without thinking because one of our dearest friends was diagnosed with breast cancer. When someone you love is diagnosed with this terrible disease there are many ways to react and we reacted by doing something bold, something that showed her we with her through this battle she was about to embark on over the next year.

My friend has a happy ending. Through various treatments her cancer is gone and she can say she is cancer FREE! She walked this year in the Susan G. Komen-Race for the Cure. My gift on this day was a monetary donation in support of her walking team.

This year I won’t be walking the 60 miles, but I will be praying and sending e-mails of encouragement to those that are. May God give them sunshine, cool breezes and no blisters!

Day 91- No e-mail, no texting but a hand written letter!

2011-07-10T09:09:00.000-05:00

About a week ago I received a letter in the mail from a friend. The receipt of this letter made my day. Everyone today, even I, get so caught up in texting and e-mail that written letters are thoughts of the past even though they are, what I believe, more meaningful and personal.

One this day my gift was to several friends just letting them know what they mean to me, I appreciated their friendship and their support and thanks for them being in my life.

I encourage you today to take five to ten minutes to write a letter of encouragement, thank you or “just saying hello” to someone that could use a little uplifting nudge in their day!

Day 89-Donation to Kris Brown Family

2011-07-05T20:09:00.000-05:00

I believe I was very lucky to grow up in a small, rural community in Indiana. A community that comes together in good times and in bad. On this date I made a donation to the Kris Brown family. This is a family I have never met, but it was the right thing to do.

Kris was in my sister’s class in high school and still lived in the community where I grew up, Versailles, Indiana. In March his two young daughters were killed in a tragic car accident and his wife was left in critical condition.

It is on days like this my gift doesn’t give me a warm and fuzzy feeling, yet a feeling of sadness. After all of these months I am sure the family could still use your prayers.

1 Making a Difference: Day 88- and 90-Thank God for Good Nurses

2011-07-03T09:27:00.000-05:00

1 Making a Difference: Day 88- and 90-Thank God for Good Nurses: "At the end of March I had to have a minor surgery. I guess anytime one goes under the knife it can be a bit frightening. I am always ner..."

Day 88- and 90-Thank God for Good Nurses

2011-07-03T09:25:00.000-05:00

At the end of March I had to have a minor surgery. I guess anytime one goes under the knife it can be a bit frightening. I am always nervous that I won’t wake up. I saw this on an episode of Greys Anatomy once where a girl went in for minor surgery and never woke up. That show is real....right?

We had to travel to Illinois for the surgery and arrived very early. My husband was starving so we stopped at the Corner Bakery Café to grab a bite to eat. Well my husband got to eat and I had to sit staring at him since I was not allowed to have any food prior to my surgery. I was starving. I hadn’t eaten anything since the prior evening and seeing coffee cakes, bagels, eggs and bacon made my mouth water. While we were there I saw this nice cellophane wrapped coffee cake. I knew after my surgery I would be out of it for the rest of the day so I had to tackle my gift prior to going under the knife. I bought the coffee cake and had decided to give it to the staff that would be involved in my surgery today.

Fast forward a couple of hours when I am lying in my hospital bed with my gown and shower cap on with an IV sticking out of my arm. The nurse came in and I handed her the bag with coffee cake. She was so surprised and didn’t really know how to react. I shared with her about my gift giving journey and today my gift was to her, the other nurses and doctors that would be with me during the day. I was basically saying, “you are going to feel really bad if you killed me!” Just kidding, but the thought did cross my mind!

Two days later I would mail a gift card for the Corner Bakery Café to Nurse Jodi. She was the nurse that was with me when I came out of surgery and stayed by my side until I went home. She was so caring, compassionate and patient and took extremely good care of me. The gift card was to say thanks and that I appreciated her kindness.

These were both fun gifts to give because they were unexpected, well deserved and probably to two women who often go unappreciated. Take time in your life to say thank to those that go above and beyond to help you out, make you feel comfortable in your time sickness and pain. Hopefully you will be as lucky as I was to have wonderful nurses taking care of me.

1 Making a Difference: Day 85- Craft Store

2011-06-30T19:28:00.000-05:00

1 Making a Difference: Day 85- Craft Store: "One of my favorite things to do is to spoil my niece and nephews. On this week I was having a very stressful week at work. I had worked da..."

Day 85- Craft Store

2011-06-30T19:27:00.000-05:00

One of my favorite things to do is to spoil my niece and nephews. On this week I was having a very stressful week at work. I had worked day and night on a project that couldn’t end soon enough. It was a Sunday morning and I was taking a couple of minutes to relax in my jammies. My husband had gone to work and I heard the doorbell ring. I typically don’t answer the door when my husband isn’t home so I ignored it. The person at the door rang the bell several more times and I still didn’t answer. I then get a phone call from my husband instructing me to answer the door. I answer the door and there stood my five year old niece. Poor thing had wanted me to answer the door so she could say, “Surprise, I took the bus!” I had ruined the surpriseL I knelt down, hugged her and started crying. My niece and I have a special bond and her and my mom and sister had come to spend the day with me to cheer me up!

It was the best gift I could have ever received. I quickly showered and we headed into town for lunch and some shopping. We went to Michael’s, which my niece loves. My gift for this day was to let her buy some crafts. She was in heaven. I bought her ribbons, glitter glue, stickers, and some wooden items to paint. I love that she is creative and artistic. Something I am not!

I have been blessed with an amazing family who knew exactly what I needed. They sacrificed their Sunday, and spent 5 hours in a car to give me a gift! They will probably never know how much this gift meant to me and I thank them from the bottom of my heart!

Day 84- Scouting for Food-Kouts Food Pantry

2011-06-12T16:10:00.002-05:00

I always love when opportunities to give present themselves to me. Committing to give a gift everyday hasn’t been easy and sometime I struggle to find a gift for the day. I have learned when these opportunities are given to me I should accept. I think it is God’s way of helping me out this journey I have decided to take.

About a week earlier I received a note from the local Boy Scout troop that they would be collecting food on this date. I had set the paperwork out to remind myself to get perishable items at the store or to go through my pantry. I buy food in bulk so I never have a lack of canned goods available. This was a busy week and the paper reminding me of the food drive was buried in a stack of papers on my desk. It was early Saturday morning and I was going through the stack and I came across the paper and ran down the stairs to the pantry. I had ten minutes until the boys were going to be coming to my house to collect. I was lucky that even though I had had not gone to the store I was able to fill several bags of food to set out on my porch to be collected.

Do opportunities to give present themselves to you on a daily, weekly or monthly basis? Do you choose to give or ignore the opportunity? As we start a new week, I encourage you to say yes this week to a gift giving opportunity that presents itself. You never know when a gift you give will change your life or the lives of those receiving the gift.

Day 83- Thank you to ISP Chaplain

2011-05-28T11:48:00.000-05:00

As a wife a of an Indiana State Trooper there isn’t a day that my husband walks out the door to go on duty that I know he may never return. On this day my husband received a postcard in the mail from his district chaplain. The postcard stated “Each day I select a person from Lowell District 13 and pray for them. Today I have prayed for you. I have prayed for your wisdom, health, family and for you to be safe. May the Lord bless you and keep you. May the Lord make His face to shine upon you and be gracious to you. May the Lord turn His face toward you and give you His peace.”

I was so touched by this letter. My heart smiled knowing that there are always many people praying for the safety of my husband on a daily basis. My gift today was a letter back to the ISP Chaplain letting him know that I was thankful he prays for my husband and that I am grateful for the job he does. Take time to thank those that are praying for and watching out for your loved ones. Saying THANK YOU is one of the simplest yet most meaningful gifts we can give.

Day 82-Red Cross Japan

2011-05-28T11:37:00.000-05:00

^{My heart was devastated when I heard and saw all the pictures from what was happening in Japan. The American Red Cross is an organization I have supported over the years and I believe they provide invaluable services to victims of various catastrophes around the world. On this day, I gave a gift to the American Red Cross to support their efforts in Japan. The Red Cross belongs to a global humanitarian network of 13 million volunteers uniquely positioned to save lives and provide assistance to those affected by emergencies, such as the earthquake and tsunami in the countries across the Pacific. To learn more about the Red Cross please visit www.redcross.org.}

Day 81-Chief Justice Shepard

2011-05-28T11:27:00.000-05:00

^{I am a pretty social person and love to attend various speaker events that are in our community. On this date the Kiwanis were hosting Indiana Supreme Court Justice Randall Sheppard at our weekly meeting. We wanted a packed house so we were encouraged to invite a guest. Since I love the law I knew this was a rare opportunity to hear a Chief Justice speak in such an intimate environment. On this day my gift was to a friend of my husband’s and an acquaintance to me. He is an attorney and I thought he might enjoy hearing the Chief Justice speak. It is out of my comfort zone to ask people that I hardly know to attend an event with me, but I thought this would be a great gift. He was excited about the opportunity and graciously accepted my offer to come hear the Chief Justice Speak. My gift giving journey is teaching me to go outside my network, think of others and get out of my comfort zone. Have you given a gift lately that has challenged you to step outside your comfort zone?}

Day 79-Edible Arrangements

2011-05-07T09:00:00.000-05:00

^{In reading about gift giving and even in the Bible we learn that the more we give the more we receive. While on this journey I regret not tracking all of the gifts I have received to inform people that this is true that the more we give the more we do in fact receive. I have gotten to the point where I am not surprised by some of the gift I receive, I just smile and I know that because I gave a gift I am getting one in return. Though that is not the reason I give; it is a mere benefit of giving.}

^{On Day 79 I was sitting in my office where I had been what seemed like 24 hours when the doorbell rang. This was the excuse I needed to leave my office; I hurried down the stairs and could see something colorful through the window. I opened the door and it was Edible Arrangements with a ginormous (a word not recognized by the English, but Urban dictionary Giant + Enormous) fruit basket filled with pineapple, strawberries, several types of mellow and grapes. This was the exact pick me up that I needed. One of my favorite snacks is fresh fruit and Edible Arrangements baskets always have the freshest and yummiest fruit!}

^{After I was over the shock that my dear friend would send me such a nice gift, I then started to think, “How are Mike and I going to eat all of this fruit before it goes bad?” I hate food to go to waste, especially when someone gave it to me as a gift. I thought for a couple of seconds and then decided I would in turn give some of the fruit away….I would share my gift with others. I got out a Tupperware container, filled it with fruit and took it to the boys across the street. I figured I had fed them cupcakes a couple of days ago, the fruit would balance out all the sugar. Once again they were very grateful and I was happy to see my one gift turn into another gift. Sharing what we are given is what we are called to do. We are called to share our gifts, talents, money, time and heart. Share a gift today!}

Day 75, 76, 122 and 125-Dinners and Desserts

2011-05-07T08:32:00.000-05:00

I think I have mentioned in prior post I am not the best cook, nor am I the main cook in our household, my husband has that role and does it much better than I do. I am combining a couple of days together because they all have to do with food and me cooking or baking…YIKES!

On Day 75 I prepared and took a meal over to one of my friends for her family. Her youngest son was having surgery and a group of women got together to make sure all her meals were covered for the week. I was a bit nervous about preparing the dinner. Sure I have people to our home for dinner, but I don’t ever recall making something to take to another family. My mom use to do this all time when I was growing up. It seemed like she was cooking and taking meals to people on a weekly basis, but the difference is she is a great cook I am not. I called my mom for advice, I needed something easy and that kids would like. I ended up making homemade BBQ, Mac and cheese, a veggie tray and my favorite… cupcakes! According to my friend the dinner was a hit and no one got sick, which the latter was my goal.

On Day 76 I took cupcakes to the three neighbor boys across the street. I had baked way too many cupcakes on Day 75 and needed them out of the house. I love the boys across the street because they are growing boys and always welcome my food, or at least I think they do!

On Day 122 and 125 I actually cooked dinner for my husband. I have been working on a big project at work and during the past two months my husband did all the cooking and kept me fed. If it wasn’t for him I may have starved in my office. He is so supportive of my job and the long hours I must work sometimes. Since my project is over I have more time to cook and even though my husband is the better cook he enjoys the break when I cook for him!

The gift on Day 75 was really out of my comfort zone. It was something I wanted to avoid and not do. I was actually nervous about cooking the meal and wondering if they would like it and eat it. And then I realized, the gift wasn’t about the food it was about helping out a friend and I am sure if they hadn’t liked the food they still would have been grateful for the thought and that I tried to help instead of sitting on the sidelines letting someone else do the work. I challenge you today to look for an opportunity to give a gift that will stretch you out of your comfort zone. Doing things that make us uncomfortable is how we learn and how we get over our fears. Now that I have made one meal it is my hope I will have the opportunity to make more meals in the future.

Day 71, 78 and 99- Calls with Emily

2011-05-03T06:46:00.002-05:00

Time is something that we all could use more of and I am sure if there were 26 hours in a day we would be wishing for 28. Lately I feel like my days are full from the time I wake up until the time I go to bed. To be honest I like life this way. I get bored easily so the more I am doing the better I feel. I think on some days my husband would disagree since my over commitment at times can cause me to get stressed and a bit overwhelmed. Usually this subsides and I am back to committing myself to more projects. I heard someone say the other day at a meeting, “If you want something done, ask a busy person!” I think this is so true.

Anyway enough of my ranting about being busy. Sundays are a day to relax and catch-up before the beginning of the new week but typically my Sundays are just as busy as any other day of the week. My gift on these days was time spent talking with my friend Emily. It is a gift to both of us. Even though if it seems like I don’t have time, I always try and make time for our talks. It is a great motivating start to my week.

We are accountability partners and challenging each other to be the best people we can be. We also discuss a book, this month, You Were Made for More by Jim Cymbala. Great book, here is an excerpt from the back cover, “Jim Cymbala believes that anyone who wonders whether there is something more to life is on the right track. God does have more. Whether you come from the bottom, the top, or the middle rungs of our society, Jim Cymbala knows that God can transform your life. You can become remarkable for the peace and joy you display. Equip yourself to pursue the “more” God has for you.”

If you don’t have an accountability partner or a friend that is constantly challenging you in life, find one. We all need a cheerleader and a coach to make sure we are living our best life!

Day 70-Kiwanis Pancake Breakfast

2011-05-01T09:37:00.002-05:00

^{Several months ago I became a member of Kiwanis. I have lived in Northwest Indiana for five years and had volunteered on and off for various organizations over the years but it was time to join a volunteer organization where I could commit more of my time to the community. My first opportunity to volunteer was the Annual Pancake Breakfast. We first were asked to sell tickets. To be honest, I hate to sell anything so I bought all 20 of my tickets. My first gift was to two of my friends for their family to come and enjoy a free breakfast. They are busy families so they were grateful for not having to cook for their crew that morning and the kids had fun getting their faces painted and eating cotton candy!}

^{My volunteer assignment was to be a ticket taker. I loved this job because I am a people person and I got to interact with everyone coming into the pancake breakfast. It was so much fun but what made it more fun is I had 11 tickets that I had purchased that I had not distributed to friends. Every so often I waited for just the right person and when they went to pay for a ticket I would say, “Keep your money” and give them a free ticket. The looks I received were priceless. Some shocked, many smiled, and others thought I was joking but all were very appreciative. I didn’t tell them the tickets were from me and in someone ways it made the gift more enjoyable. Some days anonymous gifts are my favorite to give. I believe it isn’t the gift that matters or the person who gave the gift; it is the impact that gift has on another person’s life. Whether the gift is big or small it will almost always make a difference.}

Day 69-An American Hero

2011-04-20T20:21:00.002-05:00

^{Do you know a U.S. Solider who is fighting in the war in Iraq or Afghanistan? I know several and am so proud of the commitment and sacrifice they make for our country every day. I believe on most days, even if we don’t admit, we take our freedoms for granted. A good friend of the family was getting ready to be deployed to Iraq and a group of us got together for his going away party at a local restaurant. I was so happy that 20-25 people showed up for the going away party. My gift on this day was to my friend Dan who was being deployed. I had done some research and found a list of items that are most needed by our soldiers in Iraq. I put together a care package with many of these “most needed” items. I wanted our friend to know that we were grateful for his service and that we supported the job he was doing.}

^{After the party was over Dan came back to our house and we spent a couple of hours talking about his job in the military, what he thought of the war and politics. His opinions gave me a lot to think about and I was glad, even though I was very sleepy, I took the time to stay up and chat with him.}

^{Even though he left Indiana around March 20th, he has only been in Iraq for a little over a week. I pray for his safety and the safety for all men and women who defend our freedom and fight for the freedom of others.}

^{I watched an Oprah Show recently and it talked about ways we can give back to not only the soldiers that are fighting but those that are coming back from the war. If you go to Google and type in “Wounded soldier” and your city, a list of ways you can help will be provided.}

^{I have been amazed that through this gift giving journey of all the ways there are to give back. There are so many people who need our time, prayers, money and a kind word or note. Set a goal and if you are not giving already, or not as much as you would like, start looking for ways to make a difference. My life changes every day as I give and give and give.}

Day 68-, 73, 77, 80, 86 and 87-Letters to LEO Familes

2011-04-17T22:06:00.000-05:00

^{As a wife of a police officer it makes me sad and scares me at the same time that so many officers have been killed in the line of duty this year. An overwhelming amount of officers this year have been shot. If you have read my early posts you will know I made a commitment to write letters to every family of a law enforcement officer who was killed in the line of duty. On days 68, 73, 77, 80, 86 and 87 I wrote letters to the following families: California Highway Patrol Officer Adams, ICE Special Agent Zapata, Uniontown PD Captain Stiles, San Carols Apache Tribal Officer Peru, Stow City Police Officer Bastock, ST. Rosenthal, Deputy Marshall Hotsinpiler, Detective John Falcone, Officer Crawford, Officer Pounds, Officer McDonough, Park Ranger Nickel, Officer Thornton, Park Ranger Julie Weir, Deputy Sheriff Wright, Officer Sheridan, Officer Newman and Deputy Cammon.}

^{I have been delighted that since I have been sending these letters I have received several letters back from either the officer’s agency or the family. Their letters have touched my heart and have put them in my “Making a Difference” file folder. I started this file folder several years because I wanted a file to look through that would make me smile when I was having a bad day. It is a file to remind me that many days when I am feeling sorry for myself that others have it way worse than I do. It is a file filled with the kindest thank you notes from people I have help and it reminds me that one person can make a difference.}

^{Being married to a police officer and being a former officer myself I understand the dangers and sacrifices men and women of law enforcement make on a daily basis. I have seen and heard of heroic acts these brave officers have performed that most turn and run the other way than risk their life for another human being. One of the letters I wrote was to Detective John Falcone’s family. This detective died to save a 3-year child. Here is his story:}

“Detective John Falcone was shot and killed after responding to a shot fired call on Main Street. He was just over a block away when he received the call and when he arrived at the scene he encountered a man holding a 3-year-old child and waving a gun. The suspect fled, still holding the child, with Officer Falcone in pursuit.
Detective Falcone was able to rescue the child from the man and handed the child to a bystander before engaging in a struggle with the suspect as other officers arrived at the scene. During the struggle Officer Falcone was fatally shot in the head before the man committed suicide. The subject's wife was found in a nearby car with a fatal gunshot wound to the head. Detective Falcone had served with the Poughkeepsie Police Department for 18 years. He is survived by his parents. Detective Falcone was posthumously promoted to Detective by the Poughkeepsie Chief of Police.”

^{Please remember your law enforcement officers in your prayers and thank an officer the next time you see one. To learn more about the officers on today’s blog go to http://www.odmp.org/.}

Day 67-Taking care of the pets

2011-04-10T10:16:00.002-05:00

Growing up as a child I had all kinds of pets. My first pet was a kitten named Sugar Babies, and then I had a dog Daisy, a turtle Norman, a bird Kiwi and too many rabbits to name, but my favorite was Thumper or was it Oreo?

The first four years of our marriage Mike and I didn’t have a pet and if I would have had my way we never would have owned a pet, but my husband had other plans.

Since he was a child he not only dreamed about being a police officer, but a K-9 handler. He loved dogs but when he graduated from the police academy in 2000 the Indiana State Police did not have a K-9 program. Around 2006 a new Superintendent, a former K-9 handler, started a K-9 program and my husband was ecstatic. He had an opportunity to finally fulfill his dream. It would be a lot of hard work, time and dedication. He applied for the position and in September 2006 he left for 17 weeks for K-9 training. Prior to him going to training we had a deal. This was his dog, not mine and I wouldn’t be responsible for feeding, bathing or really anything that had to with the care of the dog. And to this day my husband kept this commitment he made to me.

Don’t get me wrong, I love this dog, Boss, and he is a part of our family. If I am outside he is right beside me. If Mike is gone I feed and let Boss out to go potty, but 90% of the time Boss is my husband’s responsibility.

On this day, actually for this entire week, my husband was going to be gone to training so I would be in charge of the pets. I fed Boss twice a day, let him out to go potty every couple of hours and played with him. Besides Boss my husband also has four Piranhas in one tank and then another tank that has a fish my niece bought that will not die. The fish are in the basement and I actually forgot to feed them for a couple of days. Yikes! My husband would have not been happy to come home to dead Piranhas. He has been growing these fish for months.

Anyways, I feel in life, especially for the people we live with and love there are sometimes things we don’t want to do but since we love the ones we share a home with we need to help out when an opportunity presents itself.

I am very proud of my husband and Boss. My husband has committed countless hours to caring and training Boss. Boss isn’t just one of the best K-9’s in the region, but in the state. To see one of Boss’s tricks click on the video below. Enjoy!

Day 65-Awakening the Past

2011-04-09T23:14:00.000-05:00

^{Day 65-Awakening the Past}

^{I apologize that I haven’t been posting lately, but I have been working long hours and some days I need to get away from the computer. I promise that I have continued with daily gifts and will eventually post every day for the year.}

^{As a blogger I know how important it is to have people actually reading these posts. I try to support my friends that have blogs by reading their blogs and encouraging them throughout the process. Blogging is a big commitment and I know for me, I want people to read the blog, not for personal satisfaction, but because I believe what I am blogging out can make a difference and impact the lives of others.}

^{One of my oldest and dearest friends, Kyle, I have known him since kindergarten, has one of the most amazing blogs. He has always been a creative writer so his posting put me to shame. If you are a history buff or have any interest in history his blog is a must read. I would recommend starting from the beginning and follow his journey to the present day.}

^{Here is an excerpt from his blog: “}This site is dedicated to my grandfathers and their experiences before, during and after World War II. Philip Leland Givan, 2nd Battalion, 24th Marines, 4th Division Fleet Marine Force - the Pacific Theater of World War II. Robert Eugene Parker, 530th Field Artillery Battalion, 5th Army, 5th Division, United States Army - the European Theater of World War II. Initially, this site will follow my journey of tracing the history of several Japanese items my grandfather brought home from the Pacific. I hope to track down the families of the men who carried these items into battle, and ultimately ended up in a cardboard box in my grandfather's closet until the year 2000 when I began my senior honors thesis at Ball State University. Over time, I hope to expand this site to include stories of the veterans who served with my grandfathers, photos, memories and links to other resources and sites.”

My gift on this day was to my friend Kyle. I took the time to read through his blog, look at the pictures, promote his blog on my facebook page and write him a note of encouragement. I truly believe the work that he has done has affected many lives and brought joy to many families.

My challenge to you today is to support my friend Kyle on his journey, take time to read his blog and leave a comment on his blog letting him know your thoughts. You can find his blog at http://awakeningthepast-wwii.blogspot.com/. Thank you!

Day 64-Three Gifts

2011-04-04T19:47:00.002-05:00

^{On this day I gave several gifts. My first gift was to my husband. He was getting ready to leave for a week of training so I picked up his favorite snacks at the store as a surprise for his trip. I know how he likes to have munchies in his hotel room, just like I do!}

^{My second gift of the day was creating the facebook page the Valparaiso Noon Kiwanis Club. I recently joined this organization and noticed they didn’t have a facebook page. I thought this might be a great way to get the word out about the good things this organization is doing for the community, but also use it as a way to thank our donors and weekly guest speakers. I approached several members in the group and they thought it was a great idea. Many times we see a need but avoid stepping up and taking action. If you have the time and know that you can help, step up and volunteer.}

^{My third gift for the day was attending an event for The Caring Place. I have talked about The Caring Place on several prior posts. They are an organization in my community that provides a variety of support services, including shelter for victims of domestic violence. Since this is an organization I believe in, I try to support any events and fundraisers they organize. On this date I attended an event which featured speaker and bestselling author Betty Mahmoody. She wrote the book Not Without My Daughter, which was later made into film featuring Sally Field. If you have not read the book or seen the movie, I highly recommend both. I believe in not only supporting organizations financially, but attending events they host. I have almost always found I probably benefit more from the information I receive at the event then the organization does by me attending. Betty Mahmoody made me believe sometimes the impossible is possible. She talked about her life in Iran and the lengths she went to keep her daughter. It was a story of courage, faith and hope….something we all can use a little more of in our daily lives.}

Day 63-Make-A-Wish Foundation

2011-04-02T18:08:00.000-05:00

^{My gift started with a gift that I had received from a friend, a 30% off coupon for Old Navy. I was in need; okay more of a want, of new spring clothes. I am not what you would call a Fashionista, but more of a Frugalista! I don’t need a designer label and to spend $100 on a pair of jeans when I can go to Old Navy, find something trendy and pay a reasonable price.}

^{As I entered Old Navy I was greeted by a friendly lady sitting at a table obviously promoting an organization. Prior to my gift giving mission I would usually avoid these tables and try not to make eye contact with anyone who might be selling or promoting something (I am sure you have probably done the same thing), but today was different. I actually walked over to the lady and asked what she was promoting. I was hoping this was my opportunity to give a gift and it was. The young lady worked for Make-A-Wish Foundation and was collecting donations. I shared with the young lady that my cousin had benefited from a Wish many years ago and I had a friend from college whose family was selected as a Make- A-Wish family. I gave her a donation and wished her good luck!}

^{About a month after making my donation my friend and her family went on their Wish to Walt Disney World. My friend is a fellow blogger and blogged about what an impact this experience had on their family. I sat at my computer crying as I read about their trip. What an amazing gift this organization has given a family and a little precious boy who has been through so much. To hear firsthand about their personal Wish experience you can read her blog at http://braydenandmommy.blogspot.com/2011/03/our-make-wish.html}

^{After reading my friend’s blog I am sure you will be touched like I was and more than happy to donate to this organization when given the opportunity. To learn more about Make-A-Wish Foundation and how to support this wonderful organization visit http://www.wish.org/}

Day 61- Lunch, Day 72-Dinner and Coffee and Day 74-Breakfast

2011-03-31T19:22:00.002-05:00

^{These days I gave the gift of time to my friends. On Day 61 I had and paid for lunch with some old friends. On Day 72 I met one of my dear friends for dinner and then we went out for hot chocolate and coffee. And on Day 74 I went out and paid for breakfast with a new friend.}

^{Meeting friends for meals is one of my favorite gifts to give and receive. I usually try to pay if they let because then I feel like it is a real gift, but I am learning through this process that time and being there for my friends is just as important as paying or buying them something. These gifts always give me something to look forward to and I try to make a conscious effort to stay in touch and go out with friends as often as I can. With everyone living such busy lives these days I think it is easy to make excuses to not make time for friends. I encourage you to pick up the phone and schedule a meal with a friend you have been meaning to get together with for the past couple of months. It will do you both a world of good!}

Day 60 and Day 62- Gum and a Phone Call

2011-03-28T22:23:00.000-05:00

^{On a daily basis we are given the opportunity to help and give gifts to others. It is the choices we constantly make to either ignore those opportunities or take advantage of the situation to help someone in need. My gifts for Day 60 and Day 62 both occurred while I was traveling to Minnesota.}

^{My first opportunity to give came on my flight to Minneapolis. As the plane started its decent I noticed the young gentleman (probably 10-12 years old) across the aisle was holding his ears and he seemed to be in great deal of pain. His father flagged down a flight attendant asking what he should do. The flight attendant yells, “Does anyone have any gum?” As I started digging through my backpack searching for gum I looked around to the other passengers to see if they were looking also. I was disappointed, but not surprised no one else seemed to care. I found and handed the flight attendant a pack of gum. She smiled and the father nodded his head and said, “Gracias.” He spoke very little English but seemed very grateful. His son started to chew gum and by his facial expression it appeared his ears popped and were feeling much better.}

^{On Day 62 as I was waiting at Midway Airport for the bus back to Indiana I noticed the lady sitting next to me was on the phone but having trouble communicating with the person on the other end. After she hung up the phone she started to ask me questions, but I couldn’t understand a word she was saying, I was frustrated that we didn’t speak the same language. Her phone then rang again, she answered it and without saying a word to me just handed me the phone! I was a bit shocked, but smiled and said, “Hello?” The gentleman on the other end spoke very broken English, but I could make out bits and pieces of the conversation and one thing was very clear, he was at O’Hare Airport looking for the lady next to me when he should have been at Midway Airport. I tried to explain to him he was at the wrong airport and if he made his way to Midway he would need to go to arrivals and his friend would be waiting at Door #4. I had to get on my bus before the lady was picked up so I hope she made it where she was going safely.}

^{I liked these gifts because they weren’t part of my plan and I didn’t go searching for a way to help someone. But when the opportunity presented itself I choose to help instead of ignore the situation hoping it would go away. I hope the next time you are presented with an opportunity to help a stranger you choose to step out of your comfort zone and lend a hand.}

Day 59-Guardian Bell

2011-03-28T08:37:00.002-05:00

^{Several months ago my husband and his friend went to Chicago to pick up his friends motorcycle. When my husband returned from the trip he told me he had bought his friend a Guardian Bell for his motorcycle. I had never heard of a Guardian Bell, have you? I did a little research and found there is a legend that having this little bell on your motorcycle keeps the rider from having bad luck while traveling on the motorcycle. The legend also describes how the rider will have better luck if the Guardian Bell is received as a gift from someone rather than if the rider purchases it for themselves. I don’t believe in all this nonsense, but I thought the bells were cute and my husband would probably enjoy having this bell from me on his bike. I searched through tons of designs and settled on a bell that was simple, but perfect for my husband. It was a pewter bell displaying the American Flag. I purchased this gift weeks ago, but didn’t give it to him immediately. I was saving it for a day when I needed a gift.}

^{Well today was the day I needed a gift! I was lying in bed; it was 11:30p.m. and as I was about to fall asleep when I was struck with panic! Yikes, I had not given a gift today. I didn’t want my year of giving to be ruined by a day, where for some reason; my gift giving journey had somehow slipped my mind. I raced around the house thinking of what to do, and then I remember….the Guardian Bell. My husband was still at work, so I wrote a little note, left it at the top of the stairs knowing he would find it when he returned home.}

^{The note read, “My gift to you today. I ordered this bell because I wanted you to always have a piece of me with you when you are riding. I got the flag to honor Scott (this was a friend of my husband’s who was killed in the line of duty and loved the American Flag) and how he would to be riding with you guys. Thank you for being so good to me, even when I don’t deserve it. Love always.”}

^{I must admit even though I don’t believe the bell brings good luck, my husband’s friend had his bike painted, forgot to put the bell back on his bike and had a minor crash while they were out riding. My husband was kidding his friend that he wrecked because the bell wasn’t on his bike!}

^{Are you ever shopping and see a memento that a friend or family member would like but dismiss the thought and don’t purchase the gift? Next time when you see that gift (if it is reasonably priced and you can afford it), purchase it and send it with a note of why you purchased the item. Gifts for no occasion, I believe, can be some of the best gifts.}

Day 58-Massage and Tip

2011-03-22T06:20:00.002-05:00

^{On this day I gave myself a much needed gift. If you have been following my blog you know I took a somewhat adventurous trip to Mexico. On one of our adventure we went riding ATV’s through the Mexican Jungle and boy did I mess up my neck. After I returned from the trip I went to see my chiropractor and he told me I had whiplash. I was in a lot of pain and he recommended a massage.}

^{I have a great massage therapist that came to my home and gave me a 90 minute massage focusing on my neck, and shoulders. After she was finished I felt like twenty pounds had been lifted off my shoulders. I gave her a nice tip (gift #@2) for her willingness to stay beyond the original 60 minutes I had scheduled.}

^{I find it difficult sometimes to find time to take care of myself. There always seems s to be more important things I should be doing with my time. This is something that is a work in progress for me but I need to realize when I do find time to renew myself and relax I can be more open and patient with others. Have you made time to take care of yourself today?}

Day 56 & 57- Birthday Gifts

2011-03-19T18:55:00.003-05:00

^{Some of my favorite memories as a child are the wonderful birthday parties my parents would throw for me each year. I loved having all my friends over to the house having a special cake designed and decorated just for me and a special gift of something I had been hoping for probably since Christmas.}

^{I also enjoy celebrating others birthday. I like looking for that gift I know the receiver will just love. On day 56 my gift was money to my brother-in-law for his birthday. I really hate giving money or gift cards for gifts because I feel they are so impersonal, but sometimes it is the easiest and most appreciated gift. My gift on day 57 was to my niece. She loves all the princesses and Disney movies. My gift theme for here was Tangled. I got her the Tangled Barbie with horse and prince, a miniature Tangle doll and the Tangled booked. She also loves to color and told me the week prior she needed a new coloring book. She loves animals so I found her a Discovery animal coloring book and then bought the Crayon Tower that came with 150 crayons. I would have loved this crayon tower as a child.}

^{Also on day 57 I gave gifts to my mom, sister and niece from our trip to Mexico. Whenever one of us travels we always bring each other back a memento from the trip. It is a tradition we started many years ago and has continued to this day.}

^{Do you love celebrating birthdays? Do you have any fun birthday gifts you like to give? Do you bring back gifts for any family members when you travel? I would love to hear ideas others have and how you celebrate birthdays!}

Day 55-Ride to School

2011-03-16T19:39:00.002-05:00

^{Today was a fun gift for me to give, but it was a gift that happened because of a bad situation. One of my friends little boy was taken to the emergency room late the prior night. I found this out through facebook so I sent my friend a text to see if there was anything I could do to help. She asked me if it would be possible to go pick her other son up at her parents in the morning and take him to school. She had her hands full as did her parents. I graciously accepted and was more than happy to give this gift that would help her family out. As a bonus for me I got to spend some time with her little two year girl who is just adorable. On our way to school the topic of conversation was Boss, my husband’s K-9 partner. Kids just love him and always have tons of questions about him. I am glad my friend’s child had paid attention because even though he is in first grade he knew exactly where I needed to pull in to drop him off and which door he needed to go in.}

^{How many times do you see a need or where someone could use an extra hand and ignored it or tried to justify you are too busy to help? I have been guilty of this in the past but I am trying to change to old ways. It is sometimes easier written than actually taking action, but I am trying. It is easy to make excuses and come up with laundry lists of why we can’t help. Yes, sometimes it is just not possible to help out, but I think we need to start distinguishing the difference between we can’t verses we won’t. I think once we make the conscious decision to help we open up the door to grow friendships and let people know we are someone they can count on for not only the fun times but the difficult times also. That is the kind of friend I want to be!}

Day 53, 54 and 66-Referrals

2011-03-15T18:09:00.002-05:00

^{I apologize that I have gotten a bit behind on my blogging lately. Every year about this time I start a large project at work that I work on for about two months working early mornings, late nights and weekends. After sitting in front of a computer from morning until night the last thing I have felt like doing is blogging. I hope to catch up by combining some of my days that have similar gifts. Today I am writing about days 53, 54 and 66.}

^{As a small business owner I understand the importance of networking and referrals. Due to having a full time job, I am limited to working with organizing clients in the evenings and mainly on weekends. Over the past several months I have had numerous potential clients contact me wanting my services and I didn’t have time to take on their projects. Instead of just saying no, I can’t help, I located other professional organizers in their area and then contacted the organizer and passed along the referral. This gift was both to the customers I couldn’t help and to my competition.}

^{How many times have you contacted a business and never received a return call? Or how many times were you told by a company they couldn’t help you. I have had this happen on many occasions and I know I will never contact that business again. If you are a small business owner, provide a gift to people you are unable to assist and refer them to someone that can. Networking is how many small businesses receive customers. I almost always know if I don’t offer a particular service I know someone that does.}

Day 52-Bob Evans (February 21st)

2011-03-10T21:09:00.002-06:00

^{I am not sure why, but I am having trouble writing a blog for this day. I have started and stopped it about 10 times today and seem to be having writers block. My gift for this day was to treat my friend and her son to breakfast at Bob Evans. It was her day off and I was happy she chose to spend her morning with me. I had gift cards left over from Christmas so I figured I could use them on this day to pay for our breakfast. My friend was gracious for the free meal and she had leftovers for her son for lunch. I use to be stingy with my gift cards, trying to make them last as long as I could and only using them for myself. But since my giving challenge has started I find it much easier to use up my gift cards on other people. It is funny how the more I give, the more I want to give and the more opportunities I to find to give. Have you given a gift today?}

Day 51-Run 2 Remember (February 20th)

2011-03-09T19:39:00.002-06:00

If you have read any of my prior posts you will know that I have a soft spot for families who have lost a loved one in the line of duty. I think one of my callings in life is to be there to provide support and comfort to these family members. I don’t know if feel like it is my duty to support the families; I mean, their son, daughter, wife, husband, brother, sister died protecting us and keeping us safe. I think I also do it, because God forbid something ever happen to my husband on duty, I would hope someone, even people I don’t know, would be there to support me.

For the past two years I have participated with a group of friends in the Chicago 5k Run to Remember. It is an event sponsored by the Chicago Police Memorial Foundation. The Chicago Police Memorial Foundation provides support and assistance to the families of Chicago Police Officers who were killed or catastrophically injured in the line of duty. It is a day not only to have fun with friends and get a little exercise along the lakeshore, but it is a way to show our support to the families.

My gift for this day was to sign up and make my contribution to participate for the third year in a row in the Run 2 Remember.

If you are a runner or walker in the Chicago area I encourage you to come out and join us for this event. More information can be found at http://www.cpdmemorial.org/.

Day 50- Cooked Dinner (February 19th)

2011-03-06T19:26:00.000-06:00

I am don’t think I am your typical housewife, I don’t know maybe I am, but I don’t think so. My husband works an afternoon shift at least five days a week so that only leaves two nights available for dinners together. The other nights my husband usually cooks or we go out to dinner for a date night. It is on rare occasion that I cook. I have my traditional, easy meals but nothing to write home to your mother about.

I have been working a lot lately and my husband has picked up a lot of the house duties. My gift on this day was to let him relax a bit and I cook dinner. Even though I am not the best cook he is always appreciative when I give him a break and I cook for a change.

Is there a chore that your spouse or roommate is always doing without complaining that helps you out and gives you a couple extra minutes in your day? If so, surprise them by giving them a gift and doing their chore for the day. Small acts of kindness can go a long way.

Day 48 and 49-Girl Scout Cookies (February 17th and 18th)

2011-03-05T09:30:00.000-06:00

This is one of my favorite times of the year. Not only are the days growing longer, the weather is suppose to be getting warmer but Girl Scout cookies are available! I love Girl Scout Cookies. I love all types and depending on the day my favorite varies. On day 48 I bought 10 boxes of cookies from a friends’ daughter. We like to stock up and put them in a freezer for treats throughout the year. To be honest I should I have bought more. On day 49 I bought another box from the Girl Scout troop sitting out in the cold outside of Wal-Mart. I can never pass up kids selling stuff outside of stores especially on a blustery February day.

On these day I was not only giving a gift to the Girl Scouts but a gift to me because I received delicious cookies in return for helping out a great organization out. I was never a Girl Scout but it looks like fun and something that grows young girls’ self-esteem and confidence.

The mission of the Girl Scouts is awesome: Girl Scouting builds girls of courage, confidence, and character, who make the world a better place. If you haven’t bought your Girl Scout cookies this year it looks like there is still time to buy. If you don’t like or can’t eat cookies then buy then as a gift. It also looks like they have program you can send cookies to soldiers in Iraq. You can go to http://www.girlscoutcookies.org/, type in your zip code and find the nearest location selling Girl Scout Cookies.

Day 47-Nate (February 16th)

2011-03-05T09:10:00.002-06:00

As you may or may not know my husband is a K-9 handler for the Indiana State Police. His K-9 partner, Boss, lives with us and is a member of our family. Unfortunately we could not take him on our vacation to Mexico. He would have loved the ocean! We were very fortunate this time that when we travelled my husband’s best friend, another state trooper, was available to take care of Boss. If this friend wasn’t available we would have had to kennel him two hours away and Boss hates it.

My gift for this day was to our friend for taking such good care of Boss while we were gone on vacation. Our friend loves hot sauce. We found an assortment of five bottles of authentic Mexican hot sauces and gave them to him as a thank you gift. My husband also picked him up a case of beer. The hot sauce was from me and the beer was from my husband. I have never understood why men repay each other in beer.

Remember to say thank you and show your appreciation when people help you out and their not obligated to do so. Sure our friend is the type of guy a simple thank you would have been fine by him, but thinking to bring him something from our vacation let him know we really appreciated the time he took out of week on a daily basis to help us out.

Day 46-Coupons (February 15th)

2011-02-27T12:08:00.002-06:00

February 15^th was our last full day in Mexico. We were sad to be leaving; we definitely could have a used a couple more days of relaxing by the pool. While relaxing by the pool earlier in our vacation we met two very nice couples, one from Canada and one from Illinois.

At the time we booked our travel we were given coupons for dinners, spa services and wine. We used some on the trip but still had several that didn’t expire for a couple of days. One of the couples was getting ready to get a spa service so I gave them a coupon for $40 off their service. They were very appreciative for this gesture and knew it was something we didn’t have to do. I figured the coupons were not going to do anyone any good in the garbage and anyone can afford to save $40.

Do you ever get coupons in the mail and think, “my friend or family member could use this coupon,” then throw it away because it seems like too much effort to drop it in the mail or put it in your purse/wallet? Next time this happens I encourage you to take three minutes to mail the coupon to a friend or family member and include a little note to say, “I was thinking about you!” I am sure this small gesture will put a smile on their face and keep more money in their pocket!

Day 45-Sweethearts (February 14th)

2011-02-27T08:46:00.002-06:00

Sweethearts, these were one of my favorite candies as a child. Several times around Valentine’s Day my father would surprise my sister and I with a box of Sweethearts. We were always grateful and thought of these as special treats. I wonder if children today are thankful when they receive a simple gift such as Sweethearts or are they use to video games and dolls which were toys we only received at Christmas and on our birthday.

Since Sweethearts and Valentines were something I have always loved, prior to leaving on our vacation I picked up an 8-pack of Sweethearts in Spanish and Valentine cards and packed them in my suitcase. When Valentine’s Day arrived I pasted out Sweethearts and Olivia (the pig) Valentines to the staff at the resort. I received big smiles and Happy Valentine’s Day in return. Another small gift that cost me $4 in total, but went along way to say thank you and you are appreciated.

I hope you all had a Happy Valentine’s Day 2011! I know I did!

Day 44-Day off (February 13th)

2011-02-24T17:52:00.002-06:00

My gift today was simple and didn’t cost me a dime but I think made the housekeeper at the resort happy. This was our third day on vacation and we had spent very little time in the room. We are neat and clean people so I didn’t see the need for housekeeping to waste their time and efforts on our room just because it is policy to clean rooms every day. When our housekeeper arrived for the day we were getting ready to head out for a lazy day at the pool. I looked at her and told her not to worry about cleaning our room for the day. She smiled and said “Are you sure?” I let her know in a kind way that I was 100% sure. I was giving her the day off from at least one room cleaning today. She said, “thank you, thank you, thank you!” I asked for new towels and out she went.

I don’t know about you, but I hate cleaning my home let alone cleaning room, after room everyday for six days a week. Even though it was only one room off her list for the day maybe she was able to take a 15 minute break or leave for home earlier that day. We rarely even get to see the results of random acts of kindness but I hope this small gift made her day.

Day 43- English Lesson (February 12th)

2011-02-21T20:19:00.000-06:00

There are not too many things I regret in life, but one is not learning Spanish. I completed two years of Spanish in both high school and college and still don’t know enough to carry on an intelligent conversation. If I would have given more of an effort the rewards could have been tremendous in my life today.

Our third day of vacation was filled with riding ATV’s through the Mexican Jungle and snorkeling again in caverns. Trying to be braver than I really am I chose the “boy” ATV tour over the “girl” tour. The salesperson, a woman, highly recommended the “girl tour because it was smooth, slow and relaxing as opposed to the “boy” tour which was rough and for more experienced riders. I should have gone with her recommendation. I don’t think I have ever been more scared in my life. I almost rolled the ATV and came close to hitting numerous trees. I was so sore the next day I could hardly get out of bed. From now on, no more trying to be macho!

Our guide, Mateo, was French and knew very little English. I usually lose my patience pretty quickly but with Mateo he was so kind and trying very hard. Every time he would get stuck trying to describe something I would try to teach him new words or how to describe an object. Every time he struggled with describing what he was trying to say I would teach him the word and then try my best to explain its meaning and pronunciation? He was a quick learner and I hope some of the things I taught him will carry over to his other tours. What I had learned from Carlos the day before was that just learning a word or a couple of words a day is a great accomplishment.

As with all other guides and staff I encountered through the week I gave Mateo a tip. This was for his patience with me while trying not to kill myself on the ATV. At one point I wanted to quit and he offered to come back and get my bike. Unfortunately or fortunately depending on how you look at it, my husband wouldn’t let me quit and I completed my journey through the jungle on the ATV. On this day, I learned to have patience and that most of the time others have a lot more faith in our abilities than we do. Quitting is usually easier than continuing on the journey, but if we continue the journey, even if we come out on the other side with a few aches and pains, it will be worth the ride.

Day 42-Carlos (February 11th)

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It was the second day of our vacation and we had a Mayan Xtreme Adventure planned which would include snorkeling in an underground cavern, zip-lining over the Mexican jungle and rappelling off a 70 foot tower. Every time we are on vacation we like to try something new and adventurous.

I was awoken at 2:00a.m. by the sound of pouring rain. I fell back asleep and when my alarm went off at 6:00a.m. it was still raining cats and dogs. My husband and I debated as to whether or not we should cancel the trip but we knew if we didn’t go on this day we may not get another chance. When our guide, Carlos arrived to pick us up he said we could cancel, but he didn’t think it would be raining where we were going because it was over an hour away and weather was always different in Tulum than it was in Riviera Maya. We trusted his advice and loaded into the van. We were a bit sleepy so we talked very little to Carlos on the way to our destination. Even though we didn’t have much interaction with him prior to our excursion he ended being the best guide we have had on any vacation. He was very knowledgeable, funny, and always made us feel safe and comfortable, even right before he pushed my off the first tower for the zip-line!

On the way home we were in a great mood. The day was far more than we expected and snorkeling in the cave had topped my list of one of the most memorable moments in my life. After spending the day with Carlos I was interested to learn about him and his life. I told him how impressed I was with his English. Most of the staff we had encountered at the resort spoke very broken English but Carlos was very fluent. He told me how when he started in the service industry he would learn a word a day and was still continuing to learn. His philosophy on life, his country and work ethic touched me. I think it is rare we meet a stranger who is truly genuine in their nature. He loved his country and was saddened by what was happening on the northern border. He felt very strongly that what was happening was giving a black eye to all of his country. He loved his country, just like I love America.

Carlos gave me a whole new perspective on life. He was very happy and lived a simple life. His day started at 4:30a.m. and would end around 4:30 p.m. He worked six days a week for $15 dollars per day. I want you to stop and think about that for a moment. Could you imagine working a twelve hour day for only $15 dollars? I could not put my arms around what he had told me. I could not comprehend how someone lives on $15 dollars per day.

I was moved by our conversation with Carlos. In little under an hour I felt like we were talking with an old friend. I was sad for our trip to end. As we arrived back to our resort it was again pouring down rain and I noticed I didn’t have enough cash for the amount of the tip I wanted to give Carlos. This would be my gift for the day. I gave him what I had and asked him to wait while I ran back to the room for more money. It was pouring down rain, but it didn’t matter to me. As a runner, running in the rain is one of my favorite things to do. It is refreshing to me. When I returned back to his van I was drenched but I didn’t care. Carlos hopped out of the van and I gave him probably the biggest tip I have given in my life. He tried to give me back what I had already given him and had a look of amazement in his eyes when I told him to keep that also. We stood in the rain hugging. My eyes started to well up with tears. I was sad to leave him, a friend I had only known for a day. He kissed me on the cheek (this is a gesture many Mexicans do to greet or say good-bye to their friends). I told him to have a blessed life and that I would be praying for him.

As I ran back to the room in the rain, tears of happiness ran down my face. I can’t explain the connection I had with Carlos. But I think it is something that happens when we take time to treat each other as human beings, ask questions and have a genuine interest in getting to know someone. It is something I struggle with everyday, but treating people as equals and not judging is something we should all strive for in our daily lives. We never know what someone has been through, where they came from and what their aspirations are in life. Give everyone a chance, they just may surprise you!

Day 41-Tips (February 10th)

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Two days ago I returned from a very relaxing trip to Riviera Maya, Mexico. I gave a gift, many days multiple gifts, while I was on vacation so don’t fret, my year of giving continue but my blogging did not. Over the next couple of weeks I will be catching up on my days of giving while I was on vacation. I tried to use the computer as a little as possible. I checked my work e-mail once a day and updated my Facebook status and that was it.

Gifts on vacation were easy to come by. Even though I was at an all-inclusive resort the workers depend on tips for their lively hood. The staff at our resort was exceptional. They were friendly and always willing to help out and serve anyway they could. They were also very polite and funny. They loved to make jokes and have people laughing and smiling. The staff didn’t stand around waiting for tip but it was the right thing to do. My gifts today were to the guy who picked us up at the airport, to the bellman that took our luggage to our room (I felt sorry for this guy, no elevators and we were on the fourth floor), and the waiters who served us at meals and brought us drinks by the pool.

All of the employees work very long days, most six days a week for a small salary. We learned quickly that we, the guests, are the way they make their money. Our resort was at 77% capacity, which I thought was good. But according to many we talked with tourism is down in this part of the country due to fear caused by what is going on in the Northern part of Mexico. Mike and I were talking to a friend yesterday and he said, “Mexico, I wouldn’t go to Mexico with all the drug violence, weren’t you scared?”

I must admit this was a concern of mine prior to leaving but through a lot of research and talk with my travel agent we really had nothing to be concerned about. The majority of the violence is along the northern border and with people who are involved in the drug cartels. We weren’t traveling to the northern border and we are not involved in drug cartels. We felt extremely safe our entire trip. We even took adventures two days away from the resort traveling to different parts of Mexico. Everyone was very friendly and made us feel safe.

If you are thinking about planning a vacation I wouldn’t count out Mexico based on the fear the media is putting out there. If that were the case many wouldn’t travel to L.A., Detroit, Chicago, St. Louis and other cities that have gangs and drug violence in the United States. You have to be smart when traveling. Tourism is a big industry in Mexico and people living there rely on us to help them make ends meet. If you are planning a vacation in the near future, have fun and be safe!

Day 40-Pamper Night (February 9th)

2011-02-16T18:23:00.000-06:00

Did you know in the United States a woman is a victim of domestic violence every 15 seconds? According to the Indiana Coalition Against Domestic Violence in 2010 in Indiana, 63 women were killed by their abuser. This is a crime that not only affects the victim, but their children.

We like many communities throughout the U.S. are fortunate to have domestic violence shelters that assist women and their children who are fleeing from these scary and dangerous situations. In our community the domestic violence shelter is The Caring Place. Through Facebook I found out that a local church was hosting a Pamper Night for the women of the shelter. I contacted the organizer for the event to see what they needed or how I could help. I really wanted to volunteer for the event but it was going to take place while I was on vacation.

My gift was marshmallows and pretzels that would be used for the women to dip in chocolate. Sounds yummy! The church was also collecting travel sized items to put in baskets for the women. This was great! I travel a lot an always hoard the shampoo, conditioner and lotion from the hotel. I had the items stocked in my linen closet and this was my chance to put the items to good use. I was able to donate 15 of each.

If you travel, I encourage you to take home the toiletries you don’t use and donate the items to nonprofits in your area. I have found homeless and domestic violence shelters can always use these types of items. I hope the ladies were able to spend an evening relaxing and enjoyed being pampered!

Day 39- More letters and another tip

2011-02-08T21:57:00.002-06:00

Is it ever going to be spring? Living in Northwest Indiana this time of year is a bit depressing. We received another 3.5 inches of snow today due to lake effect. My husband and I were out for a couple of doctor appointments this morning and did not realize there was going to be whiteout conditions. One of the doctors was over an hour late due to weather. So to treat ourselves for the miserable morning in traffic and waiting rooms we went out for lunch. My first gift was a nice tip to the waitress. She was very attentive and deserved a little more today than the usual 15%.

My second gift today was letters to four families that have lost a loved one in the line of duty. Back on Day 24 I wrote to all the families of officers who had been killed in the line of duty so far in 2011. I have decided that a part of my Year of Giving I will write every family who loses a loved one in the line of duty. I know it was unrealistic, but what a blessing if I never had to give this gift. Unfortunately in the past 15 days, four officers have given the ultimate sacrifice. Those officers were Officer Califano, Col. Malloy, Officer Biendl, and Officer Pomales. To learn more about these officers and the sacrifices they made to protect our communities please visit http://www.odmp.org/.

Day 37 & 38- Candles and Wings

2011-02-07T21:59:00.002-06:00

I apologize for not posting yesterday. I spent the evening watching the Super Bowl and then reading a good book and to be honest I needed a little break from the blogging. But I am rejuvenated and ready for the week!

My gift yesterday was simple and to my husband. He loves the ear candles. I have never tried them be he says they work wonders. I was in a health food store on Saturday so I picked him up two packages and gave the ear candles to him yesterday as my gift. He was grateful I had thought of him and bought the candles. Now he can clean out his ears and have no excuses for not hearing me when I talk.

I remember reading 29 Gifts and Cami, the author, not only talked about what she gave but what she received. This evening my husband and I had to meet with our accountant to get our taxes completed. Before we left the house a couple of Mike’s friends called to see if we wanted to meet them for dinner. We accepted and let them know we could meet them after our meeting. Our tax prep this year went much better than I had expected. I told Mike, if it would be okay, because of the good results of our meeting I would like to pay for our friend’s meal as my gift for today. He was fine with this. When we got to the restaurant my friend gave us a coupon for our dinner. It was a gift for us! We had a great evening eating good food and catching up. It was really a guy’s night with one girl…me! At the end of the evening I asked the waitress for only one check. The guys were very surprised and appreciative. I am thinking they liked having me out for guy’s night! I also gave the waitress a very nice tip. This was my second gift for the day. She did a good job and I wanted to reward her for good service.

Day 36-Eye Glasses

2011-02-06T10:10:00.002-06:00

I am blind as a bat without my eye glasses or contacts. I typically wear a watch to bed so if I wake up during the night I know what time it is because I can’t see the numbers on the alarm clock. If I take my glasses off I couldn’t see the computer screen to type this blog or send e-mail.

Until yesterday, I took the fact that I am able to afford eye glasses for granted. This is a luxury for many around the world even though it should be a necessity. One of my best friends from the police academy had a little boy, Cameron. Cameron was three or four at the time. He was always running into things and his parents thought he was just a little clumsy. They could never get him to focus when they were reading him a book or try to teach him colors and shapes. He would get frustrated very quickly. They weren’t for sure why no one had checked it before or caught it, but Cameron needed glasses. It wasn’t that he was clumsy or didn’t want to learn it was because he couldn’t see. My friend felt so guilty and I nearly cried when he told me the story. The day Cameron received his new little glasses his world changed. He could see clearly for the first time. Things weren’t just blobs. To someone this little he didn’t know what he didn’t know.

Yesterday my gift was donating my old eye glasses to the Lions Club. I have seen this collection bin at my post office for years and never took the time to bring in my old glasses.

I went to the Lions Club website at http://www.lionsclubs.org/EN/our-work/sight-programs/index.php and it is amazing what they are doing with their Sight Programs.

Here is a little excerpt from their website:

“In just about any dresser drawer, one can find a pair of eyeglasses that are no longer being used. That same pair of eyeglasses can change another person's life. Most of the recycled glasses are distributed to people in need in developing countries where they will have the greatest impact.”

If you have an old pair of glasses I recommend going to their website and finding a collection bin near you. A simple way to make a difference!

Day 35-Time

2011-02-04T21:34:00.000-06:00

Time was my gift today. Today was the first day my husband has had off since the big snow storm. This past week I only got to see him a couple of minutes each day. He would wake up just in time to get ready for work and then when he got home I was already in bed asleep.

I tend to be a workaholic. I have been swamped this week with meetings. I had plans to spend this evening getting caught up so I could breathe a little and not fill like my e-mail inbox was suffocating me. But at around 5:30 I decided the work could wait and I would spend the evening with my hubby. We made homemade pizza’s, had a glass of wine and watched the movie The Town. It was one of the most relaxing evenings I have had in awhile. Work life balance is something I have always struggled with but I think today life won.

Day 34- Shoveling

2011-02-03T18:41:00.002-06:00

Looking from the inside out it appeared to be a beautiful day outside. Then I opened the door and was smacked in the face and the realization that it was 6 degrees outside and felt like -6. I have been cooped up in the house since Sunday. To say I have cabin fever would be an understatement.

Since snow blowing the driveway two evenings ago we received more snow and it was starting to accumulate making it difficult get a car in the driveway. I decided my gift today would be to go out and shovel Mike’s side of the driveway. I wanted to use the snow blower but I am pretty sure it weighs more than I do. I envisioned it dragging me around the neighborhood until it ran out of gas or I hit a tree!

Today I was very thankful for running tights and gloves, 5.11 socks, thermal shirts, snow pants, boots and an insulated coat. I looked like a weeble wobble going to play in the snow.

Several times while I was shoveling I had to stop, not because I was tired, but because I was in awe of how majestic the scenery was around me. I often complain about living in the country because it seems like I have to drive everywhere. I dream of the days where I live in the city and I can walk or ride a bike to the grocery store or café. But today I was thankful for living in rural Indiana. The sky was painted purple and blue to the east and pink and orange to the west. It was so calm and peaceful. No cars, sirens, kids screaming…just perfect silence. Even though I was trying to give my husband a gift today, God gave me one in return.

Day 33-Blizzard 2011

2011-02-02T20:10:00.002-06:00

I am not for sure what part of the country or world you are reading this post from, but I live in Northwest Indiana where over the past 24 hours we have received approximately 20 inches of snow. Last I read this is the third worst snow storm on record and definitely the blizzard of 2011. Some days I am not for sure if working from home is a blessing or a curse. Most of my friends were off work today due to the snow, but since my work is here at home my day was filled with meetings and projects.

My husband was supposed to be off work this week on vacation but when a blizzard like this roles in all vacations are cancelled for the state police. He was called out yesterday at noon and got home around 1:30 a.m. I am not quite sure how he made it home. At one point he was pulled out of the snow by a Good Samaritan and then thankfully a county snow plow was nearby to guide him the remainder the way home. I must apologize to my neighbors because he had to snow blow the driveway at 1:30 this morning to get his car off the road and into the garage. He was back out at work today and will work another twelve hour shift. From what I am hearing on the news, tomorrow will be even worse; with not only the snow blowing but the wind-chill temperature will be between -20 and -40 below. I am so glad my days as a cop are over!

My gift today was to my husband. I made him a batch, from scratch, of peanut butter chocolate chip cookies. They are waiting for him in the kitchen whenever he gets home. Which for his sake I hope is sooner than later.

During these times, please remember to say thank you to those that keep the streets clear and the roads safe.

Day 32-Children’s Hospital

2011-02-01T20:18:00.000-06:00

When I was younger I spent quite a bit of time in the hospital for asthma related illnesses and bronchitis. I can still remember all the people that came to visit me and the gifts they brought. My favorite gift was an orange xylophone with animals on the keys.

My cousin Logan, eight years old, was admitted to Cincinnati Children’s hospital this weekend and will be there for at least another week. Today I called the hospital gift shop to have a gift bag delivered to his room. He is a Cincinnati Reds fan. They lady I spoke with was so nice. She was going to get a red gift bag and put in a couple of games, a red’s hat and a Red’s Mylar balloon. I hope the gifts were a great surprise and the games take his mind of being in the hospital.

Day 30 & 31- Baby Clothes

2011-01-31T19:07:00.000-06:00

Baby clothes, who doesn’t like to look at and buy baby clothes? It is probably a good thing I don’t have children because if I did, their closets would be just has full as mine is with clothes. I love clothes! It is interesting that I love clothes because I am not what you would call a fashion expert. I enjoy jeans, sweaters and t-shirts. I like simple and comfortable. No 6 inch stilettos for me!

Over the past month I have had several friends who have had babies. I typically don’t buy clothes for newborns. But I found two little cute outfits that I thought would make perfect little gifts I could mail. So yesterday and today my gift was a new outfit to these little cuties that just entered the world. I know people get a lot clothes for the baby when they are first born so I tried to buy bigger sizes that they can grow into. My gifts were simple, but I am sure greatly appreciate.

Day 29-Turkey Pies

2011-01-29T22:30:00.002-06:00

Today was a great day. I spent this morning getting to watch my niece at gymnastics, spent the afternoon playing board games and getting her ready for a birthday party and then enjoyed an evening of conversation, food and more board games with family and friends.

My husband and I love trying new restaurants. Even though we both are picky eaters we prefer unique, family owned restaurants as opposed to chains restaurants. One of our favorite restaurants in Valparaiso, IN is Strongbow Inn. They are known for anything turkey. When my parents visit this is one place they always love to have dinner. My father loves their turkey dinner and my mother loves their homemade turkey pies and gravy. Strongbow also sells their turkey pies by the half dozen to go. This past week I pick up a dozen for the gathering today as my gift.

The turkey pies were a big hit! It was something different, something homemade and I felt good that I had supported a local business. If you are ever in Valparaiso I highly recommend stopping by Strongbow Inn for a great meal. Oh and I forgot to mention, not only do they have great meals, but they have a bakery with cookies, pies and cakes that are dessert lovers dream.

Day 28-Window Clings

2011-01-28T21:19:00.002-06:00

My little niece loves dogs. She has all different kinds of stuffed dogs and figurines. She recently had to purchase little dog magnets. She just can’t resist anything that has a dog on it. When she was younger, I found these adorable dog stickers. She called them the “tiny” dog stickers and when she was about to run out she would let me know. Thank goodness Staples kept them in stock.

During Halloween she came to visit me and I had bought Halloween window clings for her to decorate my sliding glass door. She had a great time and it was a fun activity she could do on her own. Several weeks ago I came across Valentine dog window clings. They were adorable. The clings were of dogs with hearts, roses and cupcakes. Today I drove down to Indy to visit with my friends and family. When I arrived I gave her the window clings. We went into her room to put them on the window; she looked at the first dog and said, “What a sweetie….cutie!”

I love that the smallest of gifts and those that are inexpensive can bring such great joy to a child.

Day 27- A Salute

2011-01-27T21:59:00.003-06:00

Do you have a ritual or a habit of doing something but you can’t explain why you do it? Five and a half years ago I moved from Indianapolis to Northwest Indiana. The drive from Indianapolis to my home is basically a straight shot up Interstate 65. When we first moved to “the Region” I still worked in Indianapolis as a consultant for the state and traveled often for work and to see my family. I then spent 24 weeks traveling back and forth to the Indiana Law Enforcement Academy training to become of police officer. During one of my first treks south I noticed a cross on the side of the road that caught my attention. Through some research I found out the cross was placed there in Memory of Master Trooper Michael Greene. He was killed in the line of duty on February 5, 1993. Every time I drive by the location he was killed I give a salute. I know it may sound silly but I felt compelled to do so and now it is a ritual. A ritual to say, your sacrifice is not forgotten.

I have often wondered if anyone else does the same thing and my question was answered on January 25, 2011. In the light of the shooting of Officer Moore a local news station ran a story on the murder of Master Trooper Greene. The story was an interview with his brother John Greene and his son, now a Deputy Sheriff, Michael Greene. I learned from the interview that his brother honks and his son touches his heart every time they drive by the location where their brother and father was killed. His son ended the story by saying, “We try to make sure everyone remembers my father throughout the years. It is an honor when people still remember.”

Today my gift was a letter to Master Trooper Greene’s son. I wanted to let him know that I remember his father and the sacrifice he made for the citizens of Indiana. I also shared with him about my salute!

Day 26-Polar Plunge

2011-01-26T19:53:00.002-06:00

Today I joined Kiwanis. It seems like a wonderful organization and fits my mission of making a difference. I also joined for a selfish reason. Since I work from home this will get me out of the office at least once a week interacting LIVE with other business professionals. I must say I am a little spoiled because even having to go out today made me appreciate the warmth of my home and not having to leave the house for work in the morning on a daily basis.

During the meeting a spry older women stood up and talked about how she was participating in the Polar Plunge and would be accepting donations. I knew this would be my gift for the day. As I was walking out of the meeting I handed her a donation for her upcoming plunge into what I am guessing a very, very cold lake. I can’t even imagine. God bless people like her. Going to, what I consider the extreme all in the name of a cause she believes in.

The Polar Plunge will raise funds for the Indiana Special Olympics. The Special Olympics provides year-round sports training and athletic competition in more than 20 Olympic-type sports for children and adults with intellectual disabilities. I love the Special Olympics Athlete Oath, “Let me win, but if I cannot win, let me be brave in the attempt.”

(www.soindiana.org)

On a side note, I know many of you read my blog on Day 24-TheThin Blue Line. It is with a heavy heart that I pass along the news that Officer David Moore passed away this morning at 6:18a.m. His parents are doing a wonderful thing in donating his organs. He will donate 8-10 organs in all going to help save the lives of those in need of a transplant. He gave the ultimate sacrifice protecting the citizens of Indianapolis, IN. In his death, he continued to serve and give the most precious gift of all, LIFE.

Day 25-Accountability

2011-01-25T22:30:00.000-06:00

Do you have an accountability partner; someone that holds you to your goals, dreams and keeps you on track and challenges you to be the best person you can be? I am fortunate enough to have a dear friend from college that is my accountability partner. I had received a book from my mom, Pathway to Purpose for Women by Katie Brazelton several years back. I had started the book but for reason never finished it. I really felt I needed to read this book alongside someone that would keep me on track and keep me focused. I asked my friend and she agreed. It has been a great journey and we have decided to continue reading, learning and challenging each other. We start a new book on Sunday. The book is You Were Made for More by Jim Cymbala. I sent my friend a copy of the book as my gift for today.

If you don’t have accountability partner think about finding one. It has enriched my life and I look forward to our next our next journey together.

Day 24- The Thin Blue Line

2011-01-24T20:19:00.001-06:00

Today is January 24^th and already fourteen police officers have been killed in the line of duty this year. My heart is heavy as I continue to follow the story of Indianapolis Metropolitan Police Officer David Moore who was ambushed and shot four times while conducting a traffic stop yesterday. He is currently in the ICU at Wishard Memorial Hospital in Indianapolis, IN.

As a former police officer and wife of an Indiana State Trooper, I know all too well the dangers of being a police officer. Every time and officer is injured or killed in the line of duty, no matter the color of their uniform or the department they work for, we are all a family. When one is in pain we all are in pain.

My challenge coin from the police academy reads, “Many Badges Worn, One Line Defended.” That line is The Thin Blue Line. Many people see this symbol but most don’t understand its meaning. The Blue represents the officer and the courage they find deep inside when faced with insurmountable odds. The Black background was designed as a constant reminder of our fallen brother and sister officers. The Line, the line is what police officers protect, the barrier between anarchy and a civilized society, between order and chaos, between respect for decency and lawlessness. Together they symbolize the camaraderie law enforcement officers all share, a brotherhood like none other.

Today my gift is a letter of support and encouragement to Officer David Moore’s family and the 14 other families who have lost a family member in the line of duty this year. To read more about the lives of brave officers who were killed in the line of duty you can go to http://www.odmp.org/.

Day 23-National Marrow Donor Program®

2011-01-23T22:56:00.000-06:00

Today I received official confirmation that I am a member of the Be the Match Registry ®. What does this mean? Several months ago I gave a saliva swab to be a bone marrow donor. As of today I am listed as a potential donor for leukemia patients who are searching for a match. I signed up to be a donor because my coworkers’ husband needed a donor match. Thankfully he found a match through this registry.

A complete stranger will be giving his bone marrow to save my friend’s husband’s life. The donor has to travel, be in and out of the hospital, take time off work and go to doctors appointments all for someone he has never met. It gives me hope there are still incredible selfless people in world.

I also gave a financial donation today to The National Marrow Donor Program ®. I directed my gift to provide financial assistance to help patients throughout their transplant. The transplant process can be very expensive and may not be covered by all insurances.

According to the e-mail I received today I could be a match tomorrow, next week or never, but I like to think I am at least giving someone a chance. Someone who hasn’t had a donor and I am their match or could be a match to someone in the future. I donated because I would hope someone out there would do the same thing for me.

If you would like more information on being a donor you can visit their website at http://www.marrow.org/. The initial process of submitting a saliva swab is completely painless and you are not required to give if you happen to be a match.

Day 22-Serendipity

2011-01-22T21:18:00.002-06:00

Serendipity, good fortune, luck or the aptitude for making desirable discoveries by accident. It is also the title of one of my favorite chick flicks starring John Cusack and Kate Beckinsale.

Today I went into Pier One to purchase wine glasses and a couple of other odds and ends for the house. I had several gift cards from Christmas and two coupons that I received in the mail. As I was checking out the cashier informed me I was only able to use one of the coupons. I leaned over to the couple checking out next to me and handed them my other coupon for 20% off. They looked at me surprised and the man blurted out, “SERENDIPITY!” I had to laugh because that was not the reaction I had anticipated. Then they thanked me for the coupon. The cash register even smiled at the gesture of kindness. As I was exiting the store the couple followed me out, they thanked me again, told me to have a great day and to stay warm. I love the small random acts of kindness that people don’t expect.

My second gift of the day was to my four year old nephew. My husband and I invited him to spend the night at our house. We took him to see the movie Tangled, out for dinner at Pizza Hut and spent the remainder of the evening trying to beat him on Xbox Kinect. He knocked me out in the first round of boxing. I must admit I was a bit embarrassed to be beaten by a four year old.

Opportunities are always presenting themselves to us. We can choose a negative response or a positive response. I could have stuck the coupon back in my purse for use another day, but choosing to give it away felt so much better.

Day 21-TOMS

2011-01-21T21:02:00.000-06:00

Have you ever come across a car, a book or a person that you had never seen or heard of but then after you see it first time it seems to be everywhere? That is how it was for me and TOMS Shoes. I had read an article on the founder Blake Mycoskie and I was intrigued by his business model. After I read this article, Blake and TOMS Shoes seemed to be everywhere. I fell in love with TOMS.

Today my gift was a pair of shoes to a child I will never know or meet. What an amazing business model. For every pair of shoes purchased, TOMS Shoes will give a pair of shoes away. One man’s dream to make a difference turned into providing over one MILLION pairs of shoes to children in need. Can you imagine if companies throughout the world operated on this model or even had a giving focus? Can you dare to imagine the impact it would have in the U.S. and around the world?

I bought a pair of TOMS not because I needed a new pair of shoes, even though I am excited to get them in the mail they look comfy, but because I wanted to support a company that is giving back and making a difference. I encourage you to do the same.

When I checked out the following appeared:

You are giving 1 pair of shoes to a child in need

To learn more about TOMS I encourage you to visit their website at https://www.toms.com/movement-one-for-one

Day 20-Home Sweet Home

2011-01-20T19:53:00.000-06:00

Have you ever really stopped to think about how truly blessed you are to have a roof over your head and a place to call home? This morning I volunteered to donate breakfast to the homeless men in our community. The churches in our town rotate housing homeless men during the winter months. I got up at 4:30a to pick up a hot breakfast from McDonald’s so they would have something warm to eat before they started their day.

Last night I had picked up orange juice and milk to take with me to the church. As I was scurrying around the house this morning I totally forgot the milk in my refrigerator. I had just purchased milk at the store for my husband and me, so I knew we couldn’t drink two gallons over the next week. My neighbor has three growing boys so I called her to see if she would want the milk. She graciously accepted. I am sure those two gallons will be gone by the weekend.

As I was jogging back across the street I was taken aback by how bone chilling cold it was outside. I was thinking how I could hardly tolerate being outside for a minute. I couldn’t imagine trying to get through the day and night being out in this weather. At that moment I was overwhelmed by the thought of not having a warm place to sleep and being very thankful I opened the door to warmth. I am lucky to live in a community that saw a need and filled a gap for these homeless men.

Every time I see a homeless person I try not to judge. I don’t know their story or what led them to these circumstances. And then this passage from the Bible, Matthew 25:33-40 comes to mind. On the last day, Jesus will say to those on His right hand, "Come, enter the Kingdom. For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was sick and you visited me." Then Jesus will turn to those on His left hand and say, "Depart from me because I was hungry and you did not feed me, I was thirsty and you did not give me to drink, I was sick and you did not visit me." These will ask Him, "When did we see You hungry, or thirsty or sick and did not come to Your help?" And Jesus will answer them, "Whatever you neglected to do unto one of these least of these, you neglected to do unto Me."

Day 19- Just a couple of minutes

2011-01-19T22:48:00.002-06:00

Today my gifts were simple and only took me a couple of minutes each. Do you ever come across an article in a magazine or in the paper that makes you think of someone? Do you ever get a catalog and see something that a friend was looking for but couldn’t find?

When I started college my father would always send me an article he had read in the local newspaper or a magazine that he thought would be of interest to me. He would attach a little note to let me know he was thinking of me. This started in college and still continues today. It is something that probably takes him a couple of minutes and the cost of a stamp. But it always puts a smile on my face and brings a little sunshine to my day. I don’t think it matters how old we are, we still love to receive “special” mail.

My first gift was to one of my friends who had mentioned to me that she had been struggling to keep her kids paperwork organized. Today I received a catalog from www.lillianvernon.com . They always seem to have random and unique items. I found a couple of organizational products that I thought may help. I sent her an e-mail with a couple of the items, their description and item number. I hope it helped or at least gave her a couple of ideas of things to look for when shopping.

My second gift today was to one of my dearest friends from college. She recently took on teaching a class at the local community college. This is a great opportunity for her and will hopefully open some doors for a continued career in teaching. Last week I wrote a paper on Servant Leadership for the MBA course I am taking. One of the articles discussed how to be a servant leader in the classroom and with your students. When I read this article I immediately thought of my friend. So today I wrote a note letting her know how much I appreciate her friendship and that this article made me think of her.

Do you come across articles that could help a friend or brighten someone’s day? I encourage you, the next time you come across an article that you think a friend or family member would enjoy, drop it in the mail with a special note. It will take just a couple of minutes!

Day 18-Charity Miles

2011-01-18T22:31:00.002-06:00

Today I donated all of my United air miles to the Ronald McDonald House Charities. In the past I have used miles for gift cards and magazines, but as you know by my previous post I have way too many magazines. As I was searching the United website I came across the option to donate miles to charity. What a great idea. If I don’t use the miles I lose them. Why not donate them to a great cause.

I chose the Ronald McDonald House because it brought back a special childhood memory. When I was younger our youth group drove to Indianapolis and served a meal to the families that were staying at the Ronald McDonald House. The families of children who were staying in a nearby hospital were so grateful. And recently I had an opportunity to work on a project where I got to meet employees of this wonderful organization and hear all the stories of how difficult it is for families to be able to travel from home to larger cities for the much need care for their children. I hope these miles enable a parent to be closer to their child as they face a scary time in the hospital.

Do you have miles you could donate? If so, I encourage you to log into your air miles account, find an organization you can relate to and donate some miles. Even if you don’t donate all, something is better than nothing!

Day 17- My “to do” list will have to wait!

2011-01-17T21:02:00.002-06:00

I am very driven by my “to do” list. The list that never seems to get smaller but is always increasing in the number of things I need to accomplish each day. I am good at prioritizing and getting what needs to get done for each day. Due to much of my day spent either working or school many of my tasks have to wait for the weekend or when I get a day off.

Today I was off work for the observance of Martin Luther King, Jr. Day. Usually I spend my extra day off scrambling around the house, burning calories, as I make significant progress on the things I want to accomplish.

Today was different. I gave the gift of time to two of my dear friends. I have been fortunate enough to develop many strong relationships while living in Northwest Indiana. As an adult, I feel this is difficult sometimes because you don’t have the bond of going to the same school or growing up in the same town. I moved to “the region” after getting married and so I had no ties to the area. For me I thought it would be difficult to make friends because I work from home and I don’t have children. I think many adults make friends through connections made through work or their children. God has blessed me with many great friends who have come into my life in a variety of ways.

I spent a significant amount of my day with my girlfriends. It was great to relax, eat good food and catch up on life. It was a good feeling to say… “my “to do” list will have to wait!” I know it will be there for me tomorrow.

Day 16- Boy Scouts

2011-01-16T20:32:00.001-06:00

Today was a fun gift to give. My good friend Jeannie had asked my husband if he could do a K-9 demonstration for her son’s Boy Scout Troop. My husband has to do so many public appearances with his K-9 Boss so he was happy to help out. For his demonstrations he always provides the kids with plastic trooper hats, pencils and rulers. And today I wanted them to have a special treat.

Last year when I was working on a candy project for my niece, I came across police equipment candy molds. I wasn’t for sure how I would use them but I knew they would come in handy sooner than later. Today was the perfect occasion to test my candy molds.

I made individual treats for each scout. I decided to go with chocolate badges and police radios. The chocolates turned out really well and I think were a hit with the kids. I thought about making the handcuff’s but then I pictured little boys, putting on chocolate handcuffs and then melting chocolate getting on their clothes, the car and anything else they touched. Scout mom and dads probably would not have been happy with me.

I have learned from having nieces and nephews that it doesn’t take much to put a smile on a child’s face. Think about a way you can add a special touch to an event. Maybe it is a treat for children at church, at a local daycare; boys or girls scout group or a child’s birthday party. Making homemade candies are one of my favorites!

Day 15-Global Outreach

2011-01-15T22:07:00.000-06:00

August 1995 I arrived at Taylor University, a week before most students, to report for cross country camp. I didn’t know at the time, but the first person I met would become one of my dearest friends. During college my friend felt she was being called to do missions work in China. At first I could not understand this. It was very selfish questioning on my part. I couldn’t understand how she could leave her friends and family in America to go to a world where she knew no one and to do something so dangerous. She definitely has more courage than I could ever have. Today my gift was a financial donation to her and her family so they can continue to do their work in China.

I have been supporting her for quite some time and always enjoy her newsletters, cards and e-mails. She is definitely living life to the fullest. She only makes it to the states every couple of years and I was honored to be able to host her and her family in our home this summer. I love having those friends who even though you don’t see or talk to each other for years, when you do see them your conversation picks up where it left off and doesn’t skip a beat. I miss her dearly and can’t wait for her next visit to the U.S.

If you are able, I encourage you to help your friends live their dream. Many times it is only through the support of friends, families and strangers that people are able to follow their life’s mission. Do you have a friend that needs your help? If you can’t donate financially ask them if there are other ways you can help. I am sure they have needs that stretch beyond money.

Day 14-Did you know?

2011-01-14T18:42:00.002-06:00

Did you know you can donate gently used magazines to your local library? Over the past year I have collected a shelf full of magazines. I received free subscriptions through air miles, but don’t have nearly the amount of time it would take to read all of them. I get a wide variety including Conde Nast Traveler, This Old House, Success, Entertainment Weekly, Inc., Money, Budget Travel, Time, Glamour and Sports Illustrated.

I have been recycling some of the magazines, but I feel so bad sticking them in recycling. I wanted a good home for them. I love magazines but had to come to the realization I was never going to read all of them. And at month’s end I would have even more!

I must admit, I am still holding onto my Real Simple Magazines. I have them nicely organized in magazine boxes in my office closet. They have been there for two years and I haven’t touched them. I should take the advice I give my clients. If you haven’t used it in six months and they don’t have a purpose they need to find a new home. Anyone need Real Simple magazines?

My gift today was donating these magazines to the library. It is my understanding they will put the magazines into circulation or sell them to buy new books. Do you have any other ideas of what I can do with magazines?

Day 13-UPS Man and My Surprise

2011-01-13T21:48:00.002-06:00

Today my gift was spontaneous. I heard the UPS man beep as he backed his truck into our driveway. He has been her a lot lately dropping off who knows what for my husband’s motorcycle. Without thinking I grabbed an unopened boxed of South Bend Chocolates sitting on the floor in my office. I was in their shop over the weekend and picked up a few boxes of chocolates for emergency gifts. I was actually surprised they had lasted this long since I seem to have an addiction to chocolate. I opened the door before the UPS man could ring the bell and greeted him with the chocolates. He seemed a bit confused, then surprised and then grateful. I told him I was thankful for the job he does. I think he uttered thank you about five times before leaving. I have a feeling this random act of kindness made his day.

In the book 29 Gifts, the author Cami Walker not only journals about what she gave, but what she received. Even though I have been tracking what I received I haven’t shared it on this blog. But today I received the best gift and wanted to share.

I went out to get the mail and there was a medium sized manila envelope addressed to me. I opened it up and it was a homemade card from my four-year old niece Josie. On the front she had written my name and on the inside she had put a dolphin sticker and then drew a picture of her and me holding hands. My sister included a note that stated the following, “Jos got these animal stickers in her stocking for Christmas and the other day I went up to her room and the dolphin was the only one left on the sheet. I asked her what she was doing with the dolphin and she said “saving it for Stephie!”

It never ceases to amaze me how giving children can be. This is something they can be taught at a very young age. My office is filled with pictures colored by my niece and most of them are of dolphins. Why? Because she knows I love dolphins! If you have children, no matter the age, I encourage you to start teaching them about giving. Who knows, maybe twenty years from now they will be blogging about their year of giving.

Day 12- Prayers to Washington

2011-01-12T21:59:00.002-06:00

Today my gift giving efforts were a bit challenged by the fact I work from home and the snow blanketed our small community. I knew the day would come when I would have to think outside the box to give a gift. Living in the country and working from home gives me limited access to people. My contact today with the outside world consisted of communication through video, phone and e-mail. I love video though because I have been in offices in Oklahoma, Minnesota, Texas, Missouri, Kansas, Michigan, and Virginia all in one day!

Last week I was reading another blog and stumbled across a lady, Mary, about my age whose husband, Tyler, passed away on January 6, 2011. He had been fighting Chronic Myelogenous Leukemia (CML) and lost the battle. Mary’s friend had posted an address and encouraged people to send cards of encouragement. I jotted down the address, but forgot to send a card. Today I came across the paper with Mary’s address. I thought it would be a good gift to send her a card of encouragement. I let Mary know that someone in Indiana was praying for her and her family during this difficult time.

Ten years ago this gift would not have been possible. Well …maybe it would have been, but I wasn’t very tech savvy back then. Many people think social media outlets are a waste of time, and maybe to some extent they are. But I look at these outlets as an opportunity. An opportunity to share the joys in my life, learn about those who are struggling, help people find jobs, reconnect with an old friends, help a friend’s baby win a picture contest and the list goes on and on. In my opinion, social media outlets are very positive. Take time to see what is going on in people’s life and act upon helping them. Small gifts WILL make big differences.

Day 11- Between Me and You

2011-01-11T21:40:00.000-06:00

Several months ago I attended a women’s health event in Chesterton, Indiana. At the event I had the opportunity to meet Winston, the President and Founder of Sand Dune Publishing LLC. He had a booth and was selling his keepsake journals. I bought one for my mom for Christmas. It was one of my favorite gifts I gave this season. The journal I bought my mom will allow her an opportunity to sit down with her father, my grandfather, and document his life through a series of questions in the journal. I can’t wait to read it!

As a small business owner, I love meeting other entrepreneur’s. I was interested to learn how Winston started the business and how he has kept it successful for the past ten years. I sent him an e-mail, reintroduced myself and asked him for coffee. He graciously agreed to meet with me. I was glad he didn’t think I was some crazy lady who loved his journals!

For my gift today, I bought Winston breakfast as a thank you for meeting with me. I was grateful for the opportunity to meet someone new and learn. We hit it off and learning about his company was fascinating. He has an amazing story. I think I may have a new friend.

If you want a unique gift or trying to buy a gift for someone who has everything, the Between Me and You Keepsake Journals are a must. I highly recommend checking the journals out for yourself at http://www.sanddunebooks.com/index.shtml. They make the perfect gift for any occasion. I promise, it will probably be one of the most thoughtful gifts you may ever give.

Day 10- Socks

2011-01-10T21:01:00.000-06:00

Did you ever think about how important socks are? I love socks and typically wear them around the clock. I don’t like to be barefoot and have come to love Old Navy footie’s. My husband is a police officer and during the winter months he spends the majority of shifts working outside responding to crashes. We live in Northwest Indiana so that means just above zero temperatures on many days. I have heard the saying many times… “if your feet are warm your entire body is warm, but if your feet are cold your entire body is cold.” And I think this is so true.

For Christmas my husband received a pair of 5.11 Level 2 socks from my father. At the time they weren’t that big a of a deal, just another pair of socks. But the first night he wore them on duty he comes home and says “These socks are awesome. They are so warm.”

Because he only has one pair he has been washing them almost every day so has the socks clean for his next shift. Needless to say, this isn’t very cost effective. So today for my gift I bought my husband five more pairs of the 5.11 Level 2 socks. I see them as a necessity to his job and to staying warm.

Socks may not seem that big of a deal to many of you, but if you worked outside in the bitter cold, warm feet would be very important.

Day 9-Living Hope

2011-01-09T20:28:00.002-06:00

I have been fortunate enough to find a church and a pastor that fits my needs. Today my gift was a financial gift to my church, Living Hope in Valparaiso. Living Hope and Pastor Rich are very active in the community from helping with housing homeless men in the winter to providing an Alzheimer’s service to residents of a local senior community and much, much more. The money is always spent wisely and I know it will help to provide needed services in our community.

My second gift today was to donate diapers and canned goods to our local food pantry. Our church is a collection site, so donating is very simple. I am always amazed that when I look for sales on diapers, canned food and paper products adding a couple of things to my shopping cart are not that costly.

Do you have a food pantry in your community? If so, go through your cabinets to see if you have anything (non-expired) goods you can donate. Or the next time you are at the grocery store pick up a few items that is most needed by your local food pantry. A couple of dollars can go a long way to help feed a family in need.

Day 8- Success Trek

2011-01-08T20:53:00.002-06:00

One of my dear friends, Theresa Valade is the CEO of Success Trek. Theresa is a business coach who helps individuals and organizations achieve their goals more quickly. We met nearly five years ago at a chamber event. As she was starting her business, I was starting mine. Over the years we have learned a lot from each other. And not only did our businesses grow but our friendship flourished.

I have been blessed with a God given gift to help people not only organize clutter in their homes and offices but their thoughts and ideas. Today I helped Theresa with strategic planning for Success Trek. This is typically a service I offer for a fee. Today I choose to give my time and talents as a gift to my friend.

The two-hour planning session was very motivating as we bounced ideas off each other and started to build a plan to help Success Trek continue to grow. I have to commend my friend. Many businesses only focus on the bottom line. Success Trek, even though the bottom line is important, have contributed in the past 4 year more than $40,000 of pro bono work, gifts and volunteer services to local non-profits and community organizations.

We all have God given gifts. Are you using your gift to your best ability? Or is it sitting on a shelf collecting dust? Now is a great time as any to start using your gifts to make a difference in the lives of those around you. You may be surprised by the opportunities that will come your way.

Day 7-Recipes

2011-01-07T21:43:00.000-06:00

Well one week down and fifty-one more to go in my Year of Giving! Over the Christmas break I had eleven days off of work. This was a much needed break. Even though I love my job it is a brain drain. I need a good healthy break every several months to keep my energy up and to stay focused. On one of my days off I spent an entire day in the kitchen. Even though I can’t cook worth a darn, I can bake and create scrumptious candies. Or at least that is what my friends and family tells me.

After I shipped and delivered my treats, friends followed up with e-mails asking for the recipes. For my gift today, I sent my recipes to not only the friends that asked, but several who didn’t ask. I thought they may like to add several new goodies to their collection.

Do you have a recipe that everyone loves or that you love to make? If so, share it. I love pulling out my recipes and seeing the person’s name at the top who gave it to me. It is like having them beside me in the kitchen. I don’t know about you but many of my recipes bring back a memory or a special occasion or time in my life. And that always makes me smile.

Day 6-Donuts

2011-01-06T18:05:00.002-06:00

I love donuts. But I can’t keep them around the house. Donuts and really any other sweet are like chips, I can’t eat just one. Over the Christmas holiday I had to go to the hospital for a mammogram. I have a friend who always says, “Mammograms are like getting your boobs smashed in the garage door!” And I think she is right.

Anyway, the nurse performing the test was wonderful. Once she took me back to the dressing room there was an emergency and I was left to wait. She continually checked in on me to make sure I was okay. She got me water, magazines and chit chatted for a bit. My usual experience in the hospital is people rush in your room, get what they need and rush out. She was so caring and showed true compassion.

This morning I had to stop by the hospital to pick up the films and report. I took the nurse a thank you note and a box of Munchkins from Dunkin Donuts. She wasn’t there so I had to leave them with the receptionist. I hope this put a smile on her face when she arrived at work today.

I also surprised my husband with his favorite, a jelly filled donut as a second gift for the day.

My challenge to you today is to send an e-mail or mail a card to someone who showed you true compassion. This could be something from last week, last month or last year. I am sure no matter the length of time that has passed your kind gesture will warm their heart.

Day 5-Dinner and a Good Book

2011-01-05T20:27:00.000-06:00

Two of my favorite things to do in life are have dinner with friends and read a good book. There is something about good food and great conversation that can turn a hectic day into a pleasant one very quickly.

This evening I met one of my dear friends for dinner at Panera Bread. I have been fighting a cold so chicken noodle soup was the only thing that sounded good to me while we were planning were to meet. My gift today was picking up the tab for our meal. I know it is not expected, but it is something I like to do when I can. I always think I am receiving the better end of the deal when my friends take time out of their busy schedule to have dinner with me.

The second gift I gave today stemmed from an event I attended in October for our local domestic violence shelter, The Caring Place. I was fortunate enough to meet the author, Kate Collins, of the Flower Shop Mystery series. At the event I purchased the first book in the series, Mums the Word. I loved the book so much I bought several copies to share with friends. I gave the book to my friend I met for dinner because I know she is always looking for something good to read.

I have started the second book in the series, Slay it with Flowers. You may, or may not, be wondering why I like these books so much. I typically only read books where I can get out my highlighter, take notes and learn something. And even though I enjoy the books I read, sometimes I want to relax and not learn. The Flower Shop Mystery books are fun, carefree and have a bit of mystery and romance, but are not trashy. They are what I like to call my bath books. The book I want to read when I am sitting by the fire or soaking in a nice hot bubble bath. If you love to read, I highly recommend checking out A Flower Shower Mystery.

Day 4- Homemade Treat Bags

2011-01-04T22:48:00.000-06:00

Do you say thank you to the people that provide services for you on a daily, weekly or monthly basis? When was the last time you thanked the teller at the bank or the person who delivers your mail or picks up your garbage. I am good about verbally saying thank you but rarely show my appreciation through the form of a gift. Through this gift giving challenge I hope I can recognize those that provide essential services that help keep my everyday life healthy and balanced.

I am fortunate to have a cleaning service clean my home on a monthly basis. I work long hours and am working on my MBA. I had to learn awhile ago that I can’t do everything and it is okay to ask for help. Today three ladies from Whistle While We Work Cleaning Services, LLC came to clean my home. Much to my surprise they provided me with a gift of hot chocolate and a note stating “A smile is a curve that sets everything straight.” Phyllis Diller

As the ladies were leaving I provided each of them with a homemade treat bag I had assembled the night before. I used small cellophane bags, colored ribbon, a card I downloaded from www.29gifts.org and a treat. I made the treats by spreading peanut butter between two Ritz crackers, dipping the cracker sandwich in melted white chocolate and sprinkled with colored sprinkles. I think they were surprised and grateful!

I encourage you to think of ways you can use your talents to say thank you to the people that make your life a little easier.

Day 3-Christmas Cards

2011-01-03T17:30:00.000-06:00

I love Christmas and everything that comes with celebrating the birth of Jesus. One of my favorite things about the season is Christmas cards. I work out my home so an excuse to get up and stretch is to go retrieve the mail. During the holidays it is extra special because I know there will be beautifully decorated cards from friends and family around the world. Whenever I open a Christmas card I feel special that someone took the time and money to mail our family a card.

When postage increased and e-mail became more prevalent I briefly thought about doing away with sending cards. This thought was fleeting and I figured if I loved receiving Christmas cards I knew others must also. They are tiny gifts that bring smiles to thousands of people each year.

Even though time and money goes into the Christmas card, I can’t save them all. In years past I threw them away. Sad, but true. This year, through reading another blog, I discovered a Christmas card recycling program through St. Jude’s Ranch for Children (SJRC). The mission of SJRC is to serve abused, abandoned and neglected children and families, creating new chances, new choices and new hope in a safe, homelike environment (http://www.stjudesranch.org/about_mission.php).

Today my gift is donating my Christmas cards to SJRC. They will create new Christmas cards which will be sold as a fundraiser for the organization. It is exciting to think that a Christmas card someone sent me this year will bring JOY to someone else next year. If you haven’t thrown out your Christmas cards, I challenge you to help out St. Jude’s Ranch for Children. For more information: http://www.stjudesranch.org/help_card.php

Day 2-Hershey Kisses

2011-01-02T20:15:00.000-06:00

I was excited for my gift giving today. It was a simple gift. I learned from the book the gifts don’t have to be extravagant and even the small things can have a great impact. On New Year’s Eve we were out with some friends and on the tables were baskets of Hershey Kisses. I don’t drink or smoke, but I think it is safe to say I have an addiction to chocolate.

As the clock ticked down to midnight I easily consumed 20 Hershey Kisses. One of our friends asked me if I would fill my purse with the treat so he could take some home. As the night wore on, I had forgotten about the request. When I got home from our evening there sat a bag of Hershey Kisses on the counter and I knew they would be a part of my gift giving journey.

Every year around Christmas, this year the week after, I spend an entire day baking cookies and candies for friends and neighbors. This year I didn’t get to my beloved peanut butter blossoms. This is a peanut butter cookie with a Hershey Kiss pressed in the middle. Since I had intended on making these cookies I had a baggie full of Hershey Kisses. I am not for sure how, probably the distraction of Miniature Snickers and chocolate covered cherries, I hadn’t consumed the bag of Hershey Kisses. So today I printed a little card I downloaded from www.29gifts.org, placed it in the bag and sent the gift to work with my husband to give to his co-worker (the guy from NYE who wanted me to stick Hershey Kisses in my purse). According to my husband, our friend was a bit surprised and very thankful. Two days down and many more gifts to give!